My mum why did she go?
will i get over the loss she died 5wks ago how can she leave i think its selfish
Answer:
i lost my Mum 7 years ago to cancer, i am now 15. i was a very angry child as she suffered for 6 years so i can't remember her not in pain. in time you will become stronger and be able to understand the situation more. if you mum was ill that she can not help pasting away, it isn't her fault. i can really relate to how you feel, it is part of the grievement process and though it feels like she is selfish, you won't feel like that forever. it will become easier, many people said that to me and i didn't believe them for years until i had gone through the process. try and remember all the good memories, at first it will feel said to look back in time it will help.
i hope this helps. x x
maybe she has work elsewhere
I'm very sorry to hear that. I think what you are going through is a very normal part of the grieving process, and you will need time before you start to feel better. It also helps if you have someone to talk to, so please do this. Best wishes to you.
Its not selfish. that is what i thought when my mom died and I was 4.. Things happen for a reason. You have to remember to stay possitive and move on and suceed on what u want to do as she would like to see you do.. Good Luck and I am so sorry for your loss.. IR
You are not the first one to feel like that. It is normal. The thing to consider is that no mother dies because she wants too.
You must focus on reality. Your mother is gone. She would want you to have fond memories and go ahead with your life.
Who can say, maybe someday, some how, you will meet again. Focus on the positive.
this is a tough question to answer. A lot of people don't know why their loved ones leave them, and blame it on themselves or even the one they have lost, like in your case. You have to remember that even though she may have passed on, you have to live for her. All the pleasures in life that she used to enjoy, you have to make up for them by enjoying yourself. Over time, you will begin to understand, and finally let go, but it is always hard initially.
The easiest way to think about it in the mean time is to think about how your mum would feel about you mourning for her. I know my mum would have wanted me to move on and be happy and make the most of my life, as she wouldnt want me spending the rest of my life being sad.
I hope everything gets better for you, and I know it sounds so cliche, but in time you will heal :)
She didn't want to leave you, but there's another purpose for her elsewhere. It will get easier. At least you have your memories and you have an answer.
I haven't seen my mum in thirteen years and i spend a lot of time wondering. Is she dead? Is she alright? What's she doing? What does she look like now. In my mind it would be easier to deal with if she had died.
That sounds really bad, i know, but you don't know my mother.
Bee, I'm sorry for your loss. Please don't ever think that her leaving is a selfish act. We don't have a control on when and how we die. If it's our time to go, it's our time to go and may you'll find in your heart to accept that fact.
It will take time for you to recover. Just remember the good times you both had and cherish it in your heart especially the love she have for you. Take care and good luck!
Only time will heal the wounds. It was completely not selfish of her to go. The thing to remember is all the good times that you had together. As long as you remember her, she will be with you. Never forget that. Just know that she will watch over you. I'm very sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry. It is normal to be sad and angry. I would not take it personally, though. You can only control what's inside your skin. You can't control another person's health or even another person's attitude towards their death. You can only control what you choose to do. Remember the good times, grieve the loss, and know that you are going to be okay in the end.
God bless.
OH dear I am so sorry.I do not know the circumstances of your mum's unfortunate death How on earth you can consider her selfish I don't know(unless she committed suicide).To lose your mum is the worst loss you will suffer in your life.It is only y 5 weeks and you are obviously suffering and grieving, but things will get better I assure you. I hope you have a loving family around you to help you get through these times.
i preferred your question 7 hours ago- see below
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your spouse is he/she a sheep in wolfs clothing
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its a joke !
Must have got over you mother then eh?
it is not selfish of her she didn't want to leave you but god had other things for her to do over time you not get over it but you will come to accept it and please accept my condolences for your sad loss
I'm sorry! it's a terrible thing, i know. Ur not being selfish at ALL! it's a TERRIBLE normal part of life. 5 wks is no time at all! ur gonna gradually get used to this. it takes time. maybe not now, maybe three year from now, the aching will be bearable. but it WIIL be bearable. i wish u the best of luck, and just try to keep ur mind busy at all times.
Suicide is selfish. Those who commit it are very unhappy with themselves. There's nothing noone can do. They have to do for themselves. It's never our fault, nor yours. Keep happy thoughts of her in mind. Maybe make a scrap book w/ her pics in it & otgher memoravilia. It takes several years to get over the loss of a loved one. You'll be alright. Get a hug from someone close to you.
bee bee its not her fault darlin . she wasnt selfish .she loved you more than anything .you are hurt and angry which is understandable but we dont know when were going to die .you will get over it sweetheart and you will be happy again .but right now you need to grieve youve just lost the most precious person in the world thats a biggie ..try and forgive you mum she wouldnt of left you under any other circumstances ...love and peace beebs
poor you
your moms in a safe place now smiling down at you and will meet you if you let her in your dreams
the satges of grief are denial, anger, grief and then acceptance
get some grief counselling
they re very supportive
never forget her but never remember her in sadness
live ur life happy like she would want u to
im sorry that this happened to u.
I agree with Kalgoorlie.
I checked out your "serious question" and have to say that it calls your veracity into question when your postings are at such variance in tone.
sorry to hear that, but in most cases there is no choice its natures way, dont be hard on your mum, she wasnt selfish,
am so sorry honey it will get better just give it time i know u think its selfish because u love and miss her and ur mad and hurt ur grieving its oaky to hate ur mom right now she really did not have a choice scream throw things if it helps u love you i promise it will get better i know its hard
I am sorry to hear about your Mum,
I lost my sister last year,
I went through so many different emotions,
I was sad of course at first,
I hated her too for leaving me,
Then I was angry,
Now I feel relief that she does not have to suffer anymore.
You should talk with someone about how you feel,
if you have a friend, or family,
or I know there will be some help lines if you don’t feel you can talk to someone you know.
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i lost my Mum 7 years ago to cancer, i am now 15. i was a very angry child as she suffered for 6 years so i can't remember her not in pain. in time you will become stronger and be able to understand the situation more. if you mum was ill that she can not help pasting away, it isn't her fault. i can really relate to how you feel, it is part of the grievement process and though it feels like she is selfish, you won't feel like that forever. it will become easier, many people said that to me and i didn't believe them for years until i had gone through the process. try and remember all the good memories, at first it will feel said to look back in time it will help.
i hope this helps. x x
maybe she has work elsewhere
I'm very sorry to hear that. I think what you are going through is a very normal part of the grieving process, and you will need time before you start to feel better. It also helps if you have someone to talk to, so please do this. Best wishes to you.
Its not selfish. that is what i thought when my mom died and I was 4.. Things happen for a reason. You have to remember to stay possitive and move on and suceed on what u want to do as she would like to see you do.. Good Luck and I am so sorry for your loss.. IR
You are not the first one to feel like that. It is normal. The thing to consider is that no mother dies because she wants too.
You must focus on reality. Your mother is gone. She would want you to have fond memories and go ahead with your life.
Who can say, maybe someday, some how, you will meet again. Focus on the positive.
this is a tough question to answer. A lot of people don't know why their loved ones leave them, and blame it on themselves or even the one they have lost, like in your case. You have to remember that even though she may have passed on, you have to live for her. All the pleasures in life that she used to enjoy, you have to make up for them by enjoying yourself. Over time, you will begin to understand, and finally let go, but it is always hard initially.
The easiest way to think about it in the mean time is to think about how your mum would feel about you mourning for her. I know my mum would have wanted me to move on and be happy and make the most of my life, as she wouldnt want me spending the rest of my life being sad.
I hope everything gets better for you, and I know it sounds so cliche, but in time you will heal :)
She didn't want to leave you, but there's another purpose for her elsewhere. It will get easier. At least you have your memories and you have an answer.
I haven't seen my mum in thirteen years and i spend a lot of time wondering. Is she dead? Is she alright? What's she doing? What does she look like now. In my mind it would be easier to deal with if she had died.
That sounds really bad, i know, but you don't know my mother.
Bee, I'm sorry for your loss. Please don't ever think that her leaving is a selfish act. We don't have a control on when and how we die. If it's our time to go, it's our time to go and may you'll find in your heart to accept that fact.
It will take time for you to recover. Just remember the good times you both had and cherish it in your heart especially the love she have for you. Take care and good luck!
Only time will heal the wounds. It was completely not selfish of her to go. The thing to remember is all the good times that you had together. As long as you remember her, she will be with you. Never forget that. Just know that she will watch over you. I'm very sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry. It is normal to be sad and angry. I would not take it personally, though. You can only control what's inside your skin. You can't control another person's health or even another person's attitude towards their death. You can only control what you choose to do. Remember the good times, grieve the loss, and know that you are going to be okay in the end.
God bless.
OH dear I am so sorry.I do not know the circumstances of your mum's unfortunate death How on earth you can consider her selfish I don't know(unless she committed suicide).To lose your mum is the worst loss you will suffer in your life.It is only y 5 weeks and you are obviously suffering and grieving, but things will get better I assure you. I hope you have a loving family around you to help you get through these times.
i preferred your question 7 hours ago- see below
Serious question?
your spouse is he/she a sheep in wolfs clothing
Additional Details
its a joke !
Must have got over you mother then eh?
it is not selfish of her she didn't want to leave you but god had other things for her to do over time you not get over it but you will come to accept it and please accept my condolences for your sad loss
I'm sorry! it's a terrible thing, i know. Ur not being selfish at ALL! it's a TERRIBLE normal part of life. 5 wks is no time at all! ur gonna gradually get used to this. it takes time. maybe not now, maybe three year from now, the aching will be bearable. but it WIIL be bearable. i wish u the best of luck, and just try to keep ur mind busy at all times.
Suicide is selfish. Those who commit it are very unhappy with themselves. There's nothing noone can do. They have to do for themselves. It's never our fault, nor yours. Keep happy thoughts of her in mind. Maybe make a scrap book w/ her pics in it & otgher memoravilia. It takes several years to get over the loss of a loved one. You'll be alright. Get a hug from someone close to you.
bee bee its not her fault darlin . she wasnt selfish .she loved you more than anything .you are hurt and angry which is understandable but we dont know when were going to die .you will get over it sweetheart and you will be happy again .but right now you need to grieve youve just lost the most precious person in the world thats a biggie ..try and forgive you mum she wouldnt of left you under any other circumstances ...love and peace beebs
poor you
your moms in a safe place now smiling down at you and will meet you if you let her in your dreams
the satges of grief are denial, anger, grief and then acceptance
get some grief counselling
they re very supportive
never forget her but never remember her in sadness
live ur life happy like she would want u to
im sorry that this happened to u.
I agree with Kalgoorlie.
I checked out your "serious question" and have to say that it calls your veracity into question when your postings are at such variance in tone.
sorry to hear that, but in most cases there is no choice its natures way, dont be hard on your mum, she wasnt selfish,
am so sorry honey it will get better just give it time i know u think its selfish because u love and miss her and ur mad and hurt ur grieving its oaky to hate ur mom right now she really did not have a choice scream throw things if it helps u love you i promise it will get better i know its hard
I am sorry to hear about your Mum,
I lost my sister last year,
I went through so many different emotions,
I was sad of course at first,
I hated her too for leaving me,
Then I was angry,
Now I feel relief that she does not have to suffer anymore.
You should talk with someone about how you feel,
if you have a friend, or family,
or I know there will be some help lines if you don’t feel you can talk to someone you know.
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