No really, just a question?
What is it about people that feel the need and beleive that it is okay to constanly act like J.R maurys, jerrys, dr phils and oprah in business that is not theres?
Why are people so Inconsiderate when it comes to others, YET want so much love and respect WHEN they don't pratice minding there own business?
Is it good to be in peoples business?
Answer:
well, people will get into your buisness if you let them. Everyone loves drama and some people do not know where the line is. You draw the line and you decide what is ok to divulge and what they have no right to weigh in on. I have had to do that alot with my family. They care but somethings are not their buisness
Wow you know what.I get so irritated when people have advice to offer up. If I wanted some advice or a counseling session, I would ask for it. I honestly think that is what annoys me the most.when I say something and someone else has to chip in with their two cents. Why can't we just speak and have someone LISTEN without trying to be a therapist or guidance counselor?! My family does this to me all the time. I understand they love me and want what's best for me, but what they don't realize is that it (sometimes) makes me feel as if they see me as unable to figure things out on my own. And something else that annoys me is when people don't listen to every detail or they interrupt you!
Some are just plain nosey parkers ... but many believe they can help and cannot stifle themselves. They don't view it as being inconsiderate, even when their advice has not been sought.
OMG I totally know what you mean... My fiancee her mom is like... so far into our business (so is mine too) but her mom tries to break us up and stuff.. and we are 19 and 20... but I have no idea why... people like trying to be problem solvers I guess...
Tends to be a human tendency. People who care for you (like family) tend to do it more. It's always up to you as to how you deal with it. Remember, there are times in all our lives when we need to speak to others, especially about relationships, and if you handle this present complaint poorly.you may be cutting yourself off from needed assistance in the future. I usually just listen and remind myself how much I am cared for. And if I don't think they are correct.I just don't do what they suggest. I am getting the feeling that the people are giving you advice that you do not want to hear..if they are all giving you simular advice.maybe consider it more.
I REALLY HATE PEOPLE LIKE THAT THEY REALLY NEED TO GET A LIFE OF THEIR OWN .
WHEN THEY START THROWING THE BIBLE AT YOU THEY ARE DOING WRONG FOR THE BIBLE STATES JUDGE NOT YET YE BE JUDGE WITCH MEANS MIND YOU,RE BIZ. THIS IS BETWEEN GOD AND ME!
People (non-professionals) who get involved in other ppl's business (uninvited) are (in my opinion) people who need to be told off - directly.
If they have a need to interfere without being asked in someone else's problems/relationships/lives then they need a fat lip. It comes from a lack of respect for another person's privacy.
I suggest (since punching them out is rather drastic) that you say "Excuse me, but did I ask for your damn opinion?" or " Pardon me, but when I want your useless advice, I'll pay for it!"
They basically want to meddle with and feel superior to another (in a small way) so as to feel better than their own problems are letting them. To deflate this and set the proper boundary use the previous remarks (as is, do not modify them for the following reasons!). 1. Show them you have proper courtesy from the excuse or pardon (in contrast to their not having courtesy by butting in on your space). 2. Show them that YOU are the focus here, not their opinion or their own ego. 3. Use the descriptor damn or useless to offend them (thus reminding them that they are offending you by butting in where they are not wanted). 4. Make sure the word advice or opinion comes up as the reminder that their words are not more important than your own, and you are not going to listen to them anyways.
Be firm, be direct, be tactless. And don't voice your opinions or advice unless asked either. Simple?
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