MEN ONLY PLEASE: Men and Emotions.?
Men, be brutally honest...is the following how most men really feel?
"Men are emotionally selfish. We love women but always keep a certain amount of space between ourselves and our wives, girlfriends, and lovers. We want you around when we want you around and the rest of the time we want to be alone... that is the ultimate in selfishness but it is pretty much true. That is why it always seems that you are annoying us. We don't include you in every part of our lives... most men can't wait to go to work and wish they could work late... sad but true."
Answer:
disagree
a women is inherently insecure ( honey does this make me look fat--- yes so stop asking!! ) and thus constant pestering ( or asking depending on how you see it ) the same question over and over again, can get insulting, like they do not believe you truly care about them. A man has a friendship with another man there is little that needs to be said since his actions over a period of time will tend to prove him of worth ( and hence the strong bond 2 men can have over time ), where as women needs constant reinforcement and needs reminders every single day, it sort of feels like ground hog day.. the movie... where you are reliving the same question over and over... furthermore they make you feel bad if you do not give in to the immediate attention. men are used to sorting out tasks in a given priority, but sooner or later the task(s) will get done
women want the emotional feedback on demand at that instant
it does not make a man selfish or cold is he does not answer you back right away
true there are romantics that will wait on a man hand and foot
but these tend to be soft men and not all women want such men, seeing how they can be weak
Men (at least me) enjoy a healthy relationship with women, but simply need to be in the right place at the right time. for example, we love you, but we don't want to be bothered when watching football with friends -- just like we don't bother you in your girls night out getting mani-pedicures etc.
As well, I really doubt that if a man has a wife waiting at home, that he would stay at work late just so he wouldn't see her.
okay ive never had a girlfriend (but im young so its okay) so having a girlfriend would be like a honor to me annd i would love her around all the time but thats probably because i dotn have one yet. (i might change)
im a nice guy to girls, but other guys sometimes piss me off, (im guessing you bf isnt like me becuase hes more tuff ****)
but then when i see some girls, the ones that complain too much or tallk so much about somehting stupid...i said to myself if i was with her id kill myself (even though im depret for a girl) anyways if its a girl liek this id be a btich and fight alot.
Except for the work part, it sounds like you are describing cats.
I guess this does sound like a lot of guys but remember, women don't like clingy dependent men do they?
For that people generally get dogs.
no, men just like occasional silence. if i am reading the paper it means i am reading the paper in with the hope of relative peace. i am not looking for in depth conversation. men are different from you, and that doesn't make them selfish. we come at things from two different perceptions. it is unfair to expect men to adapt and you can stay the same
Definitely not true for me.
The trick to it is finding someone who's totally compatible with yourself so that you leisure activities are mostly the same. This way you aren't constantly compromising. Now and then is fine, but constantly is just annoying and yeah you'll end up looking forward to alone time.
As far as being selfish goes... wanting to be with someone all the time is just as selfish as wanting to be alone sometimes. We all have needs and preferences.
What it really is is the best kind of relationship is not co-dependant meaning that you do not NEED each other, yet WANt to be with one another, you should have your own life outside the relationship but also be with thta person, not being selfish but never leave your well-being in the hands of others..for what is given can be taken away..personally I have always usually given too much of myself to women and it cost me in my last relationship it took some time and fights but I found a good balance for me..
Sh1t no
That's mainly because male brains are hardwired for achieving goals rather than supporting others emotionally. Men including me tend to get a kick out of getting stuff done, whereas generally women tend to get pleasure from using their emotions in different tasks.
This isn't true in my situation. I'm very giving to my girlfriend and enjoy being around her. She can be an annoying b**** sometimes, but I like having her around or I wouldn't be with her.
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