If they were your friends...?
I like being myself and I feel like everyone wants me to be what they want me to be because they beleive and know what is best and better for me.."sor-TA say"...
I mean YEAH, YEAH they want to direct me in good ways (as if I know no better) but I don't feel any different anymore, like nothing changes my in and out look of things and feelings...No I am not faithless, or hopless... Infact everyones energy or strive to direct my ways of thought and living makes me laugh!
My question is why would they want to change me or make me a certain way? for are they not suppose to accept me for who I am?..It's not my job to be strong minded..So can I just live?
Answer:
I understand what you are saying and perhaps you are just in a peer group that isn't really a fit for you. There are people out there who would probaly accept you just the way you are and perhaps if it bothers you you should start searching for a peer group in which your a better fit.
Perhaps these people have the best intentions but intentions are just that and can go wrong. No matter how pure an intention it is there not being very empathic to your needs as a person for acceptance and understanding. The problem with the world today is they stomp all over individualism playing lip service to it when really they want conformity. Conformity is safe if everyone is the same as everyone else then no one has to be understanding or try to be empathetic. I am going into school to be a therapist and one of the biggest things to learn is to put yourself into someone elses shoes even if that someone else come from a completally alien world. I am a very empathetic person but sometimes even the most empathetic person can not understand everyone all the time. Don't fault them for there short comings we all have them. Just start your search for a better peer group.
i think the main reason people become friends is because they have a lot in common with each other and their personalities mesh well together. maybe your friends are trying to change you because they feel like you don't fit in anymore. so i'd say wither try to change or get some new best buds
In my experience, when someone tried to change me it was because they are insecure. They want to "CONTROL" my life and they can't even control their own.
Let's see... pretend you are my friend and you think I don't fit in because I only eat healthy foods. But you and the rest of our friends like fast foods and make fun of the way I eat and even try to sneak meat into my vegeburger. Even though I am doing what is best for me, and I don't care if you eat junk food, I am chastised for not being like the rest of the group.
Soon you quit inviting me to lunch because I won't eat a Whopper, fries and coke.
So I ask you this? Would you come with me to a vege restaurant? If the answer is "no" then I need to find an alternate group of friends that will go out and eat healthy foods with me.
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