I need some perspective please read the below and give your opion?

I'm 30 years old and have lived most of my life as a vagabond. I have worked many different jobs but nothing has ever stuck. Currently I'm going to college and have a year left tell I get by degree in business. For the last two years I have been working on a family property that was inherited by my mother. My mother has many issue and has been unable to fine work for the last 3 years (she is unorganized and suffers from learning disability) in anycase I have been put in charge of rebuilding the property and help manage the apartments in the building. In hopes that one day I will too inherit the property (it's located in cal and can be worth close to 1 million) In any case I am constantly banging heads with my mother; how as myself lives on the property as she seems unable to deal with certain reality that exist with the property and her own unemployment and lack of health care. I just feel stuck! I know there's a winning situation but I find myself alone and isolated and lacking any real human contact. It's like I have become a machine and distant from all that matters. It doesn't help that my ex girlfriend is getting married this summer and I have yet to be with anyone since our break up. I'm 20 pounds over weight. I just feel lost right now and that my life hasn't added up to anything other than an servant boy

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I second the suggestion to join the Marines.

Try to chill out. Your situation sucks, but do you want to be defined by your situation? Are you not a man that rises above his circumstance? What you need is a big dose of EGO/androgens/testosterone! You are a MAN! Do NOT let your shitty situation get you down. You control your fate and you lead your life. You will only continue unhappiness in your current situation if you allow yourself to. That might sound trite, but there is some wisdom in it if you can spot it. Just don't let things get you down so much. You're welcoming misery. I've been in that situation. Things won't get better until you get fed up and take charge. **** your ex-girlfriend, you're better than her. Convince yourself that she missed out on letting you go. Ego is the solution for most things.

1. Get a therapist;
2. See a shrink;
3. Join the armed services, especially the Marines; or
4. have a hypnotist convince you that you are a man (the side effect here is that he/she can help you lose weight at the same time).

Focus on getting a top grade the business degree and rebuilding the properties and apartments, as when you've completed them, you will get a massive sense of achievement which is worth all the hassle. You'll be able to say to yourself " I made it" and set yourself new goals.

As for being 20 pounds over weight, try to do some additional exercise in the evenings to give you some focus away from the stress of life, as in reality, all of this is causing you stress, which is resulting in additional weight gain, most probably.

its all about focusing on goals and results...

most people have not figured out life as yet by 30 so.. dont worry your life is just begining only that u now know what paths not to take.
quickly figure out what you want and work towards it or press on with the degree and property till they are done.
i think your being too critical of your weight..dont think too much about and socialise once in a while. it helps

I am sorry that you are going through this situation. I can understand your feelings. It seems to me that you are overwhelmed by your situation because apparently you have took a great responsibility and you don´t know how to manage it. You have also decided to improve your future expectancies going to college, that seems to me a good choice. I would say that you look like a very capable person, but that you lack confidence in your ability to deal with problems. Perhaps this lack of confidence is due to the difficulties that you confronted in the past. Is normal that you feel isolated because you seem quite stressed out by your actual responsibilities. You also state that your ex-girlfriend is getting married soon, so I guess that this is hard for you and make you feel even aloner. This feeling will eventually disappear with time. Just be patient.
I would advice you looking for a good counselor. Try to find somebody that you can really trust and can help you to improve your self-esteem and your confidence. I would not advice you going to a doctor that prescribes you drugs to manage your stress. I think that you can manage it just with a little of support and encouragement, until you get confident enough to manage your life by yourself. When you get to this point, you will see that some of your problems probably just fade out. You can find somebody else at any time in any place, even if you are not looking for it. Gaining weight is probably due to your anxiety and you can go back to your normal weight as soon as you take control of your situation. Anyway, healthy nutritional habits and some exercise can help you with your weitght problem and to deal with stress. If you have back problems, ask a doctor about the kind of exercises that are more beneficial for you. Perhaps trying to exercise a little can be a beginning.
Good luck!

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