I do not have friends or a girlfriend for that matter and never did, is that normal?
I am a 22 year old male and I do not have friends. I used to have friends back when I was still at school, I used to go partying with them and play sport and computer games but whatever I did, I did not really fit in with them, I did not fit in with any crowd for that matter and so life is better for me now that I do not have friends.
I am not mentally ill, the problem could be that I am always serious and I coutd not stand it when my friends talked about women, sex and cars. I prefered and still prefer to talk about about more important topics like global warming, politics and science.
Is that normal? Are there people out there who also don't have friends but are normal people who don't have a mental problem?
Answer:
generally there is always this group of ppl called outcasts cos ppl dont like to hang out with them cos they behave weird and eccentric. it has nothing to do with mental problems, they just behave in a manner different from the norm
i guess mainstream ppl tend to group together cos they talk about the same things, which is what u dont like to talk about
you'd probably still be able to find the group that u fit in to, just that u havent. perhaps u need to hang out at a different place.
Of course they are. The most important thing is to find them. I like talking about topics like global warming, politics and science and it took me a while till I met some people with whom I can talk freely about this and without being worried that I don`t fit in.
yea your not the only one and you should really get out there and get some friends they always have your bac... = )
Yes, it is normal to not fit in and to find yourself interested in different, more serious things. It is normal to not have friends, but it is not healthy. I think it is important to find people who have similar ideas, beliefs and interests as yourself. They are out there - You just have to find organizations, clubs, etc that fit the bill. You will find loads of people there that are just like you. Open up yourself and people will come. And, when you meet someone, dont immediately shut them out if they arent like you. Some of the most interesting people you'll meet will be much different than you are.
Are you in college? This is a great way to meet people with similar interests.
You are a very unique and special individual. Don't EVER think that you have a mental problem because of this. Who defines what normal is? There are a lot of people that don't have close friends. Me included.
You need to do what makes you happy.
You might want to get involved with groups that share your interests and just keep busy doing what you like to do.
Just don't stagnate yourself - help yourself grow in your life!
If you are happy without friends perhaps it's fine (I am not a trained therapist so I wouldn't answer this definitively), but here's an excerpt for you to read:
Friendship is a lot like food. We need it to survive. What is more, we seem to have a basic drive for it. Psychologists find that human beings have fundamental need for inclusion in group life and for close relationships. We are truly social animals.
It comes from an article written at Psychology Today, here is the link for more on this article:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/...
Also, if you are interested you could visit the main page and just try searching on friends or friendship:
http://psychologytoday.com/
Sorry I couldn't be of more help to you, hope I have helped some.
I have aquantances (SP?). I have friends from both worlds. One of my best friends is anignorant redneck and one of my best friends has a PhD
We all talk about different things. I can only tolerate each of them for so long though.
Just be friendly and make friends. You will find good ones to hang with. I prayed and prayed to find good friends and I finally have. Pray if you are religious.
Men are just that way, they talk about certain things amongst other men, and also I am assuming you were young was another factor.
I cant handle other girls as friends, they drive me nuts. All the gossiping and whining. Majority of my life,guys have been my best friends.
I think your normal, but you are looking for someone to relate to. Maybe you should start dating....
You are not an outcast, and your behavior is very normal. From the way that you state your question, I can see that you are a very well-balanced and self aware individual, which is excellent. The conclusion that I draw is that you are surrounded by individuals with whom you have nothing in common. That is a frequent occurrence, and what you should do is seek out other people who share your interests. Believe it or not, there are many people out there who are your age and feel the exact same way - their interests are more serious and profound, and they would be happy to talk to you about the subjects that interest you most. You can even use the Internet to correspond with like-minded people, or seek them out in other forums - such as lectures, political meetings, and volunteer groups. Good luck.
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I am not mentally ill, the problem could be that I am always serious and I coutd not stand it when my friends talked about women, sex and cars. I prefered and still prefer to talk about about more important topics like global warming, politics and science.
Is that normal? Are there people out there who also don't have friends but are normal people who don't have a mental problem?
Answer:
generally there is always this group of ppl called outcasts cos ppl dont like to hang out with them cos they behave weird and eccentric. it has nothing to do with mental problems, they just behave in a manner different from the norm
i guess mainstream ppl tend to group together cos they talk about the same things, which is what u dont like to talk about
you'd probably still be able to find the group that u fit in to, just that u havent. perhaps u need to hang out at a different place.
Of course they are. The most important thing is to find them. I like talking about topics like global warming, politics and science and it took me a while till I met some people with whom I can talk freely about this and without being worried that I don`t fit in.
yea your not the only one and you should really get out there and get some friends they always have your bac... = )
Yes, it is normal to not fit in and to find yourself interested in different, more serious things. It is normal to not have friends, but it is not healthy. I think it is important to find people who have similar ideas, beliefs and interests as yourself. They are out there - You just have to find organizations, clubs, etc that fit the bill. You will find loads of people there that are just like you. Open up yourself and people will come. And, when you meet someone, dont immediately shut them out if they arent like you. Some of the most interesting people you'll meet will be much different than you are.
Are you in college? This is a great way to meet people with similar interests.
You are a very unique and special individual. Don't EVER think that you have a mental problem because of this. Who defines what normal is? There are a lot of people that don't have close friends. Me included.
You need to do what makes you happy.
You might want to get involved with groups that share your interests and just keep busy doing what you like to do.
Just don't stagnate yourself - help yourself grow in your life!
If you are happy without friends perhaps it's fine (I am not a trained therapist so I wouldn't answer this definitively), but here's an excerpt for you to read:
Friendship is a lot like food. We need it to survive. What is more, we seem to have a basic drive for it. Psychologists find that human beings have fundamental need for inclusion in group life and for close relationships. We are truly social animals.
It comes from an article written at Psychology Today, here is the link for more on this article:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/...
Also, if you are interested you could visit the main page and just try searching on friends or friendship:
http://psychologytoday.com/
Sorry I couldn't be of more help to you, hope I have helped some.
I have aquantances (SP?). I have friends from both worlds. One of my best friends is anignorant redneck and one of my best friends has a PhD
We all talk about different things. I can only tolerate each of them for so long though.
Just be friendly and make friends. You will find good ones to hang with. I prayed and prayed to find good friends and I finally have. Pray if you are religious.
Men are just that way, they talk about certain things amongst other men, and also I am assuming you were young was another factor.
I cant handle other girls as friends, they drive me nuts. All the gossiping and whining. Majority of my life,guys have been my best friends.
I think your normal, but you are looking for someone to relate to. Maybe you should start dating....
You are not an outcast, and your behavior is very normal. From the way that you state your question, I can see that you are a very well-balanced and self aware individual, which is excellent. The conclusion that I draw is that you are surrounded by individuals with whom you have nothing in common. That is a frequent occurrence, and what you should do is seek out other people who share your interests. Believe it or not, there are many people out there who are your age and feel the exact same way - their interests are more serious and profound, and they would be happy to talk to you about the subjects that interest you most. You can even use the Internet to correspond with like-minded people, or seek them out in other forums - such as lectures, political meetings, and volunteer groups. Good luck.
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