Just a thought..?
I must be selfish in saying this but I get irratated when I am depended on, Yet I have noticed or humans I have delt with seem to not only want but need the need to feed the dependencie side of there humanity which has become a trend or a typical tendencie to live thru co-depencie, why?
I mean come on we can't be that darn usless in order to accomplish self mandatory "basic" priorities..Right?
And no this is no question directed toward you..
This is a question for thoughs "in general" who do so...
Lets say there was no GOD, would us humans die due to
co-dependencie?
Answer:
In my personal opinion, people are co-dependent because of the way they are raised either by example or in the way they are taught. If we do everything for our children and do not teach them to do for themselves they grow up to be co-dependent. They think they need others to do for them, and be there for them. It is very selfish habit that is becoming more and more common. Very sad.
It's nice to be needed, but not ran over. It's nice to help other people. That way we help ourselves. It's a part of life to help each other and to care about our fellow men.
I for one believe without God there is nothing.
I believe it is a natural instinct to be needed or to need. You don't pop out of your mom's wound and are independent for the rest of your life. you need someone to care a nurture you. I think children that lacked attention from their parents tend to be more on the co-dependent side emotionally. Tell me where you changing and feeding yourself as a child or did you depend on someone?
I think many people have limited imagination, and very little common sence, due to the fact that they are raised by people that feel they have to be guided like hamsters in a habitrail, by social standards.
I can't tell from the posting if you're upset for having someone need you or for you're needing them back. Co-dependence implies a mutual needing. That aside, there is really no reason that we couldn't meet our basic priorities on our own (I'm assuming you mean food, water, air..). It is the non-basic priorities where we run astray. Can we live in a vacuum? Sure. Would we be happy there? Depends on the individual. There's no set of laws that determine how much to need someone beyond those we impose on a case by case basis. Some "need" and some "need to be needed". I "feel" needed by my son and at times it makes be glad to have a purpose beyond meeting my own basic priorities. I feel needed by the government to pay taxes and I feel pissed off. See, no rules.
I think it is more a matter of "what is the point of living" that drives people. Sure, you can have the great career, the perfect body, all the "things" on earth...but would it really bring satisfaction. I think we are creatures of love. Whether it is giving love or receiving love, I believe that feeds our "lifeforce" as I call it. When we feel needed, we feel like we matter, like we are here for more than ourselves. The same applies when we are loved unconditionally and are fed emotionally by others. Might I suggest that you take a few more minutes of introspection and see whether what you feel like is more fear than irritation. Or, perhaps you have had to be so independant that you feel it is never a good idea to "depend" on others or have them depend on you. We are all responsible for our own happiness, but I do think that part of our happiness comes from giving to others, helping them. In turn, when we need someone to lean on, people are there for us...no man is an island.
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