Help! How do I stop the awfully annoying voices in my head almost eveyr waking hour? I have severe depression.
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You’re in a situation that is stifling and not of you’re choosing and existing in an environment that aggravates you constantly and makes you feel disconnected from the real world..
My advice would be to listen to the voices of discontent in your head and start planning your move out of there.
Your ailing mother must realize that you are desperately unhappy and if she values your well-being she will consider your mental health as extremely important and discuss with you an alternative long-term plan which may or may not include her moving with you.
Your mother could be ailing for years; you cannot stay in this limbo for years. She has to either move with you to a place where you both can find peace or you need to make alternative arrangements for yourself.
How can you care for her properly anyway when you are dying inside yourself? It's time to take care of you. Go talk to a psychiatrist.
As a healthcare provider I believe you are depressed, and also having obsessive thoughts. Get professional help. Antidepressants help this greatly...as does therapy.
open up your mind. Humans have a lot in common there is no way you have nothing in common with people around you. People hate to find things in common with people who live lifestyles they do not like because they feel that once they start associating with these people, they could rub off on them. Not so. Actually, associating with these people from the small town will help you understand yourself better. Trust me, you have more in common with the people around you and the differences that you have with them will keep you entertained while you are living there. Don't close your eyes and miss out all the great things you can take away from the environment that you are currently in by choosing to make this a miserable experience. Why you? Trust me. You wouldn't like to switch places with a lot of people who are worse off. the why me question is just a sign that you have thrown yourself a lifetime pity party in your head. Open your eyes and see that there is so much fun and learning opportunities around you that you are missing out on. good luck
Oh I feel so sorry for you. It's such a beautiful thing that you are taking care of your mother...but you also need to take care of yourself. I suffer from clincal depression so I know what you are talking about when you say the negative thoughts all day. What I learned is that because I have positvie occupying my mind it always goes bad. what you need to do is make your surroundings suitable to you. Find something there that makes you happy. Your mother, the flowers, the waterfall whatever it may be and make it yours. Take time out and just mediate on how this person or thing brings you peace. Read the bible pray that God helps things better. He makes things happen if your not happy He will make something work out for you. Just tell your self that you will have peace no matter what. I hope you do get it. Good luck
Join a caregiver support group. Have a home health Nurse or a friend come in and sit with your mother so you can go to a movie or out to dinner. You need to take care of you too. I know this, because I am the Momma of a Handicapped Child.
He lives in a great place and is happy there. I visit him once a month and call every weekend. You want awful? I lost everything in Hurricane Katrina, but I am happy. I have my job, my family is fine and I got to start over, how cool is that? I do not take anything for granted anymore. You just be blessed you still have your Momma. I am, because I still have mine and her Mother still alive. Find something in common with her, if she crochets learn, let her tell you stories of her childhood.
I agree with tlbrown42000, get professional help. Depression is a horrible illness that drains your emotions in ways that no one understands but you (and others who also suffer from depression).
Reaching out to people over the internet is a good thing, it can keep you social, even if it is through typing only - at least you're not in a cave with no interaction of any kind!
Someone will invariably say to go talk with a pastor, priest, rabbi, whatever, that God will get you through it. Others will say that it is all in your head.
I have two answers for that: God is wonderful, but he has more important things to deal with. And yes, depression is all in the head, thank you for knowing and understanding that.
I have clinical depression and take Zoloft. Without medication, I can barely get out of bed in the morning. With medication, I remain emotionally stable but not numb. I see a therapist once a month and a psychiatrist once every three months. I am not ashamed that I have depression, it's not like I went out and said, I WANT DEPRESSION.
Get professional help. If nothing else, talking with a therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist can help you feel better, relieve some tension, be therapy itself.
Good luck.
I am from urban New Jersey (8 miles from New York) and going to college in Tallahassee, Fl (aka middle of nowhere) so I know how you feel! After 5 1/2 years of living here I realized that every place is what you make it. Everywhere, no matter how "uncultured" there are cool people, you just have to find them. It takes time. Sometimes you have to turn over every rock to find them, but they're there. Just keep your head up! If you're in a rural area, find some new hobbies, like hiking or other outdoor activities. If you move to a city, you might find you miss the environment. Also starting a journal to document your thoughts helps a lot!
Be careful about thinking that popping some anti-depressants will solve everything. They often do not. Often you can find the answers within.
Hope this helps!
Well, the source of your problem seems to be that you want to be in the city. But it's like you are trying to think of every bad thing in the place you are living in order to make the city seem like heaven but thats going to get you no where. You need to find ways to entertain yourself, like find a community activity that you enjoy so that might help you find people that you are simular to you. You might also want to seek professional help, I understand it's easy for us to say that and might be hard for you to do that. But you really should, before your problem gets worse.
We all have voices, it's just that some of us don't realise it.
There are several ways of dealing with the negative voices, some are better than other for different people:
1) Tell them to 'shut the f*** up'!
2) Listen carefully to where the voices are located in your head, and when you know where they are, imagine them moving further and further away until you can't hear them.
3) Listen to the voices and identify whose voice they are. Who has given you criticism in the past? There's a very good chance that the voice you're hearing belongs to this person. Now imagine what the voice might sound like on helium, all squeeky and funny. The next time the voice starts up, change it so it's on helium and laugh at it. Betcha didn't know you can laugh at the voice.
4) Finally, have you ever noticed the volume control in your head? I don't know which side it's on, or whether it's a knob or a slider, but it's there. If you've had enough of that voice, switch it off and as you do tell it to 'shut the f*** up.'
What worked for me was coming closer to God and reading His word (Bible), and praying for me and others. And step by step God took me out of the anxiety situation where I've been and restaured His peace step by step. What you want in your life is the fruit of the Holy Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23 tells us, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control..."
Although being a christian, I fall in sin in a way I never thought I would, and I lost His peace and anxiety took place. But then I came closer to God through prayer and reading His word, and He is giving me back step by step His peace of mind, as God wants us to have a "sound mind" but the other one on the contrary.
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