Why is my boyfriend so damn cheap?!?!?!?
but this summer he has been working over time (65 hours) at a job he makes 12$ an hour. And he is getting a larger scholarship for his grades at school (10,000$ more) he is living with a roommate that said his roommate would pay 800 if he could pay 400$ a month. All this summer when we go out my boyfriends brother will tag along with his friends, and everytime his brother picks up the bill for my bf and him. and sometimes me as well. He never pays me back for gas when he uses my car and flips out if he has to drive to my place to see me using his gas.
What the hell is his deal. What do i do? The love is def. there. Our relationship is great its just if we get any more serious money is going to be a big deal..
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tell him how you feel. He is taking advantage of you because you are his girlfriend, that is horrible. Does he lay guilt trips on you if you complain ?
Look for another one who treats you as a princess.
YE-YEAH, WAT IZ DA DILIO WIT OL BOY?! HOMIE B FRONTIN.
I think he is frugal. He is trying to live within his means and you and all of his friends are trying to drag him down.
Now stop kissing frogs. Be sensible.
I don't think he is cheap, but he is probably trying to save money. You probably have no idea about the bills he may have to pay.
I am a person that saves every little bit I get, and don't touch it. I am saving up for a down payment on a house next year, and nobody will make me deviate from the plan.
Break up. This is only an indicator of how bad things will be. He is taking advantage of you, and because he knows that you're in love with him, he's probably taking advantage of you. Break up with him and find yourself a boyfriend who doesn't use you. Because I hate to say it, but he's using you, and it's horrible!!
What you need to do is stop paying for everything. Flip it on him. If he wants to go to a movie or something, or go out to eat ask him if he's going to pay, because you can't afford it. If you keep paying he's just going to expect it, and let you do it. After he pays his bills he probably doesn't have much money left, and he wants to hold on to it. He may also be saving his money for something important. So if he wants to go out and do things he's going to have to start setting money aside for it, because it's not fair for you or his family to pay for everything. Just don't let him take advantage of you. You don't have to be rude or mean about it. Just tell him that you can't afford it either.
hey its you that is making this a problem. anyways-what you both need is to make more money. i bet bill gates doesnt complain about lack of money problems. for the time you spend, how about using that time to find ways to make money on the side instead of "hanging out" driving miles to each others places just to sit around and talk about the week-if thats what you do. room mate pays 800 and he pays 400. wow-if its for the same thing, thats well a good deal for your bf.
You are not a married couple and so money shouldn't interfere with your relationship. You say your boyfriend is in school. School can be very expensive and the student loans take forever to get paid off. If he is paying his way through school, then you have to realize that that is expensive.
It seems that you allow him to use your car and if that is the case, I can't see how you guys can differentiate how to split the gas in the one tank. If he complains about your use of his gas, remind him whose car it is and show him your car insurance and maintenance bills for the car or tell him to take a bus.
While it seems that you pay your own expenses and if that is what he expects you to do, then he shouldn't depend on you to pay his way. He can pay his own as well.
From your viewpoint, he does sound like a user. If you love him and want to keep him, then you need to set some ground rules with the money situation. Like I said, you two aren't married and so I don't see why you need to carry him financially. You have enough debt of your own.
I thinks his last gf left a bad taste in his mouth, and he feels like he'd get used that way again if he opens up his heart---as well as his wallet. We guys get that way sometimes and, even though it may not be any reflection on you, we feel justified in making the next woman pay for the last one's transgressions against us. I'd wager that if he and his ex had gotten back together he wouldn't be showering her with gifts the second time around---been there, done that, etc., etc., etc. If you love him and he loves you, he'll begin to come out of his tailspin but right now it seems as if he's mentally set some ground rules for this relationship and he's sticking to them to make sure he doesn't get burnt again. It may seem like he's cheating you out of your due but he's cheating himself as well---if you're truly The One, that is. Hope i've helped you understand the male ego and psyche a little bit. Have a good one babe,
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Some people just have problems dealing with money, whether it be they spend it too quickly or they hord it like they can take it with them when they die.
Maybe you need to sit down with him and make a list of all his bills and expenses. Make another list of all the money he has coming in. Maybe he doesn't realize that when he spendings $4 on coffee every day and it adds up to $120 for a month because it's not all spent at one time! (just an example) He needs to figure out where his money is going, and how he can cut back if needed (buying generic brands, cutting back on amount purchaced).
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