Is it possible for a woman to have good self-esteem if she feels that she is unattractive?
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Happiness is never about our looks, but about our outlook.
Our personal happiness rarely depends upon what the 'society' thinks or believes about us, rather on what we believe about ourselves.
If we are insecure about our looks, that is what we will pick on in others. Also we will then attract people and experiences that will make us aware of our insecurities.
On the other hand, if our looks stop mattering to us, any more, we will start attracting like minded people, naturally, who'd rather be about substance than any beauty that is purely external. If we maintain a superficial outlook towards life, we would attract superficial people to us.
I have noticed that good looking people seldom get the opportunity or have the inclination to develop adequate personality or life skills, so beauty can also be a handicap, if not taken lightly. Having a charming personality is a life long asset as compared to a charming face. And personality is something you can build on with age.
Building on what we have, starts building up our self esteem. Focusing on what we do not have only diminishes our joy.
A self-esteem based on external looks, is liable to cause heavy insecurity with age.
We are insecure about something, only when we want to use it as a power or something to define ourselves with. When we let go of the power, we also let go of our insecurities, and that is when we begin to receive all that we are with humility, and with gratitude. That is what become whole is, to receive our gifts as well as challenges, with equanimity and with grace.
It is very possible to have a healthy self-esteem no matter what other factors are a part of a person. Because self esteem is about self, not about others. Therefore it matters how you feel about yourself not what others feel about you. If you are a valuable person for whatever reason then you will feel valuable. Looks are just one aspect of the whole.
there are so many different levels of educated people in this country that if u surround yourself around healthy people you will have a strong positive sense of health, also, use your God given talents and your beauty will soar!
Seemore is right. Are you saying that blind people are unable to competently value other people because they can't judge the only criteria?
Absolutely. Maya Angelou is my example. She has incredible self esteem, and accepts the reality that, while she does not exactly satisfy the standards acceptable for being considered as beautiful, she also understands her contribution to beauty.
yes of course! because self esteem depends on you!! You just have to like yourself, be proud of the many quailities you have, you must change the way you feel about your self, because many things make you a vauable human being. Just dressing nice may change your whole attitude that day. Getting a haircut, your nails done are things that can help. Just investing some time and money in you as you do with other stuff. We often tend to forget that we need a little pampering ourselves, just as we take care of everything else. I agree that appeareance is overated, and sometimes one can't help feeling that way.
there is no reason not to have good self esteem if you are given the tools growing up no matter what you look like.
Look around the world at some of the strong women who have emerged in many fields.
There is an inner beauty in someone who is grounded, focused and knows who they are, can hold their own and can converse on any level.
Looks has nothing to do with being a truly successful person in life.
Money and glam our is great but it does not solve all the problems out there...and alot of those people lead very lonely lives..
the body is but a mannequin for the spirt.
its just a longer game but a happy nature and a smile normally warms the hearts of many - look for the good
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