My true love died in a car accident how can i feel better?

what do you do when your true love dies in a car accident? and everyday you just wish you could die too because you feel your life and hopes and dreams are gone? how can i heal? time doesnt seem to be helping and i have a hard time talking to people i know about how i feel it has been 13 years and i still cry myself to sleep everynight...I am now married and ,my 4yr old keeps saying mommy why are you crying and i can't exactly tell her...and she keeps saying why mommy... don't cry mommy...Help Please! I really don't feel comfortable going to counseling...what are things i can do to make me feel better about this?Thanks

Answer:
Was there something left unresolved between you two? What I mean is had something happened that made your last minutes together negative? I had such a hard time getting over the death of a loved one because the last time he saw me, I was mad at him and I let him know I was mad at him. It bothered me for many years. Other than that, acceptance of life's twists is the only way to have peace. It isn't always easy.
Go to counseling unless you want to live the rest of your life like this.
the first thing to do is decide if you got married without love,if so,sort that out,the rest will follow
Please check with your area hospitals and churches. Some of them have grief support groups that are free and with the churches, you needn't be a member or even profess a faith. If you don't work through this, your child is going to grow up in the shadow of this incident that happened way before she was born. By helping yourself heal, you can offer her a better life.

A friend of mine, her sister's fiance died in a car accident and the girl still isn't over it. It happened two or three years ago. The pain doesn't go away easily.
Talk to someone who you think can understand you. A friend or a family member is reliable and can help you move on. Besides maybe your love is watching you from above.
Sorry of the incident. Wish you luck!
I don't think that anyone can really get over something as traumatic as that. When the child asks you why you were crying you really can't say the truth...you have to lie.. for the child's sake they are much too young to understand. For example..Me - I've never had kids of my own. i had a girlfriend that wasn't faith full to me, i found out one day, and an old girlfriend (who was married) helped me kinda get myself together. well one thing lead to another we had an affair. during that affair, she got pregnant. She had no choice but to tell her husband.( she was having problems) to make a long story short, the baby was mine. she was 81/2 months pregnant.she went to hospital,they had to induce labor. the baby had choked on it's cord, and died.I have never gotten over it. so no-- you just have to deal with it.a loss is a loss..it hurts,but you can't hold it in..I'm Sorry for your loss.keep the faith, God has given you a gift.good luck!
THERE ARE WAYS TO COMFORT YOU IN THIS TERRIBLE TRAGEDY.

YES, THERE ARE MANY THAT HAVE LOST A LOVED ONE SUDDENLY JUST AS YOU HAVE AND THE GRIEF IS VERY REAL AND SOMETIMES OVERWHELMING.

ONE THING THAT MAY HELP YOU IS TO KNOW YOU WILL SEE THIS LOVED ONE AGAIN. IT IS NOT OVER.

YOU SEE IN HEAVEN ALL THINGS WILL BE MADE RIGHT.

YOUR TRUE LOVE IS WAITING FOR YOU IN A PLACE WHERE THERE IS NO MORE SORROW OR DEATH OR PAIN THAT IS INDESCRIBLE AS YOU ARE GOING THROUGH.

DEATH IS AN ENEMY.. CRUEL...AND HURTFUL

WON'T THAT BE A GLAD DAY WHEN YOU SEE THIS PERSON AGAIN? IN THE MEANTIME YOUR LOVE WOULD NOT WANT YOU TO SUFFER. HE WOULD WANT YOU TO STAND TALL AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR LITTLE GIRL...NOT MOURN FOR HIM BECAUSE HE IS IN A HAPPY PLACE.'

YES, IT IS PAINFUL FOR YOU AND THERE MAY NOT BE A DAY THAT YOU WILL NOT BE LONELY FOR THIS PERSON. ITS OK TO CRY...PRAYER IS A WONDERFUL HELP AND IT WILL BRING YOU ANSWERS TOO, THAT MAY NOT BE RESOLVED IN YOUR HEART.

TRY TO REMEMBER THAT YOUR LOVED ONE WOULD WANT YOU TO GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE...THAT WOULD BE HIS WISHES FOR YOU AS IF THE SITUATION WAS TURNED AROUND YOU WOULD WANT IT FOR HIM.

HE IS LOOKING DOWN ON YOU AND WATCHING YOU SO BE AS BRAVE AS YOU CAN, JUST FOR HIM .

YOUR LITTLE GIRL NEEDS YOU NOW AND I KNOW YOU WILL TAKE CARE OF HER AND YOUR NEW HUSBAND. SO BE BRAVE NOW, DEAR SISTER AND GOD WILL HELP YOU...HE PROMISED AND GOD DOESN'T LIE...
well i will tell you from experience that since this person was a big part in your life he has left burden on you not a bad one but a good one mi grand mother has always said when you dream of someone that you cared for they are asking for prayer. You cry because you feel you could have prevented the accident from occurring and for those who think that you are foolish for crying after many of years then they are the ones that are foolish they can't see that you need closure to something that was taken from you with out notice. I believe you are strong and you will get through it

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