Any idea how to help someone that has given up all hope?

I have a friend that says he cant wait to be dead, I ask him why and he says because anything would be better than tis, meaning life. I ask why, whats wrong, he says nothing, I just cant stand it any more I have nothing to look forward to but that, I tell him there must be something wrong why dont you try to fing out what it is, he says he has tryed and tryed, he says he has tryed so many things hes tired of looking. I ask what do you think is wrong then, he says he thinks its cause he has nothing he enjoy's doing anymore, I ask what do you like to do, he says hes tired of doing he just wants to go to sleep and not wake up, I askded if he enjoyes his job, he says no, i asked if there is anything he can think of that he does like even a little bit, he said yes ok I like talking to you, I said thanks but why did he like that he said he didnt know, is there any way I can get thru to him or help him, im affraid hes very angry inside but he wont agknowelege it, Please anyone help?

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It's hard to know what to say to someone who feels so down, talking, telling them to cheer up, saying things could be worse, or there are other people that have it worse than you won't work. Telling them to think about all the good things they have and the people who care about them doesn't help because they have convinced themselves that they are unloved, unwanted and worthless.
All you can do is be there for them listen to them and try to understand that no matter how wrong you think they are to think those things you can't make them change. If people have just "ONE" special friend that they can always talk to about anything and will always be ready to help or simply keep them company it makes things a little more bearable.
Your friend sounds like they need to be on an antidepressant medication, Just be there for him when he really needs someone to talk to that will listen instead of lecture

say no words but instead lead by hopes example .

take him for a fun day out. buy him some lunch, and just have some plain old fun! personally, camping makes me feel really realaxed. I think that maybe canoeing, sitting by a fire, taking a jog in the morning will really calm him down.

Your friend is severely depressed and could have suicidal tendencies. He needs psychiatric help. As a friend, you must encourage him to get that help. Stand by and support him, and let him know how much his friendship means to you. Beyond that, he needs professional help to get him out of his depression. Good luck!

Medication and therapy. Saved my life

i think ur friend is in self pity. he put him/her self into that condition. there are two many things to do in this world to say nothing interest him/her except talking to you. now u and i are not therpist. the thing to do is talk friend on going an be cancelled by some one who knows what they are doing. if he says no,tell him this you are my friend and i care about you and your well being. implant in his mind it is the thing to do. also tell hjim as a friend you want him around for a long time and to help you, help himself or herself. friends like you are far and few between. good luck

Your friend sounds depressed. Its certain that hes depressed. He could be suicidally depressed, in which case you want to advise him to seek help and assure him that he can get better. There are many drug therapies, talking treatments and other therapies out there.The suicidal insinuations could also be a way of getting attention but do not make him aware of this at such an early stage. By the sounds of it, he has a brilliant friend in you and is quite lucky in this respect. Help him as you can, and by what feels right for you, but do not become responsible for him, this is called "rescuing," and dependency on you may only add to his problems. As for the "I cant see a future" try having a look at NLP and "Timelines". This info shows us how to construct timelines.

Try to do something he used to like or maybe you could check and see if he is on drugs.Don't get nosy.See if you can let him move in with you and go through at least a week in yur life once he figures out that you are only trying to be a friend and help him out he might open up a bit more .When I got to the point in life where all I wanted was to do was die it really helped when my friend "sfk" let me stay with her at her parents house. She tried to give a bunch of reasons about why life is worth living and made me play Runescape (a game I had played back sixth and seventh grade).When that didn't work she kissed me and told me that God only gives us one life and if I end it now I'll never know what was gonna happen tomorrow.That the only reason for living is to see what's gonna hapen next.No matter how bad it gets you have to look on the bright side of things.Then she made promise to not get it in my head that she was gay the kiss was just to make sure I was paying attention and not plotting my demise.
I'm not saying you should kiss your friend but you should let him know that you're here and no matter what happens you'll be with him to the very end.No wait don't put it like that.Keep talking to him and listen very closely to see if he gives any hint to what is bothering him.No mater what you do keep talking to him all the time since that is what he says he likes,you never know that may be the only key to keeping him here.

Sounds like my dad after he had a lung transplant and the medicine he took to keep his lung from rejecting put him into depression, anger, and suicidal thoughts.

First, the medicine. "Prednasone" (sp?) is a powerful medicine many people take for medical purposes. It causes extreme heightened anger, depression, and causes the body to "Poof". Activity goes down and it's hard to get blood circulation in the patient. Other side effects is large doses can cause blindness. The doctor needs to know about the level of their anger and depression.

This means that you should find out what medications they are on ... research their medicine ... and talk to their doctor if you have questions. They may be taking an illegal substance which also may give them the suicidal thoughts. Most drugs lite up the adrenial glands and then when the drug wears off, you're tire, exausted, and many fall into depression. This can happen with alcohal through cocain, morphine, steriroids, and even gas & glue smelling.

Second, in a society that values "worth" over "Self" many who do not have a full range of activity often cannot find value. I highly recomend the book, "Healing the Culture, A common sense philosophy of happiness, freedom and the life issues" by Robert Sprizer PH

Maybe he is missing out on what God has said about us. He has told us that He put us here to love and for us to love Him back. We are here to help and love other people. You are doing that. Teach Him to do it too. There are many people who are hurting in this world. Take him out there and help them. This will give him something to live for.

If you are a Christian and know God, pray for him and pray with him. I will do the same. Blessings.

Your "Additional Details" section is the reason everything is going wrong for your friend. But you'll believe it when you see it.

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