Why are guys so complicated?
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It's the Y chromosome, it distorts everything, the poor things.
uggggggg dont even try to figure it out lol.
they are still cavemen,lol
We to match (and mimic) women...
just talk to them and they will warm up to u eventually
we want sex, not talk
We are programmed that way. We want it when we want it. Other than that, we don't want it.
The same question right back at you, ma'am.
We'll never understand one another, and i have learnt not to even try - I'll never get it.
They want u to talk And they Might wanna Listin if your in Love
GUYS ARE MORE COMPLICATED!?
no... you are complicated... women are complicated and complicate the situation... which is really quite simple...
its because they have two heads to answer to
Because they want to feel like they are the big bad wolf and that what they say goes. its complex but they want to be the smart one the big one the one to help there family. But one day they do grow out of it.
men are simple creatures they dont like to talk a lot, they just live for sex, food, and sleep
Guys aren't complicated, we are driven by sex. Everything we do revolves around it in one way or another. If we say we want to talk it's because we hope it leads to sex. If we are worried that you aren't talking we are afraid we won't have sex. We are very simple creatures, if we aren't eating or playing sports it's sex. We only work so we can make money so we can afford to have sex.
Guys are complicated! I can't live with them, and can't leave without them.
Men are only complicated if you ignore stereotypes.
A lot of people (including some idiotic men) say ALL men are not complicated. It really depends on each individual (IQ, personality traits, conscience, etc all play a role in the complexity of an individual).
If you want it to be less complicated, ask him directly what you want to know.
Because of the fact that they are guys, makes them complicated. Men are moody and tempermental, most are sensitive, but afraid to show the sensitive side of them. They feel the same about us though. And thats just life, learning to cope with the difference in a man an a woman, I find it fascinating and interesting. hehehe
Guys see communication as a way to deal with a problem, a means to an end. What they want more than communication is understanding which takes more than talking. If both people are understanding of each other then communication isn't as needed and waters can be calmed, time can be enjoyed.
You are just meeting wrong boys.
You are absolutely right and correct base on your experience, so that's the way it is for you.
You will meet the correct person or MR. right some day in the mean time.
We are very complicated and complex creachers this is what makes the life very interesting and unpredictable. Life can be boring, if it were not for this individuality of people.
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Read a book call "Man are from Mars woman are from Venus" May be in your library. On Internet at Amazon.com or E-bay , try new and used book stores.
mk girls are the crazy psycho ones and guys are the clueless ones. i'm speaking from experience and i say that girls are psycho cuz when it comes to guys we absolutely are. girls will try to manipulate everything and twist so that it turns out the way they want. guys are generally very simple and straightforward. they're not trying to confuse you and they're not diabolical enough to plan out every move they make and make you go crazy. if you wanna know something about a guy, just ask him! or his best friend if you're too scared to ask him something. guys will talk to you about important stuff; you just might have to make the first couple of moves.
Well, I'm a woman... And I know as a woman, I over analyze everything. I will read into everything, and look at every detail, and try to figure out any missing pieces. It's due to a womans analytical nature that we fail to see the simplicity in men. Testosterone makes a mans decisions, and assumptions either white or black. Its a womans estrogen that has us seeing every possible shade of gray. Also society teaches men to show no emotion. So for that you can judge society as a whole. : )
ugh WANT SEX *slams club on floor*
If you are talking about food or sex we want to talk. Otherwise its just noise.
I honestly tried to read your question but then i got hungry and my hard-on is making it hard to concentrate.
when they say communicate, they don;t mean it just another chat up line. if you ask them what you said they can't repeat it back to you
I think most guys can't even figure themselves out. Your best bet is to be you and do what you do. A guys concept of communication is different that a womans. It just is. The sooner men and women can accept that they operate in their own unique manner the easier it will be to truely communicate.
I think this is also a great identifier of a persons own comfort level with themself. If you can't be upfront and honest then there is something to hide that you deem not attractive enough to show. It may not be a big deal or anything horrible but it erodes confidense and thier mind will make it a big deal.
Best bet, do not try to understand just appreciate the good qualities you do find in that person. If you can't find any then move on.
Communications between the sexes is a problem for one reason. The AVERAGE man and woman are taught to play games. Just not the same game.
Women are taught to play chess. The goal is to capture the King, eliminate any other Queen on the board, and will use and sacrifice what they consider lesser pieces to win the game.
Men are taught to play checkers. The rules and strategies are much simpler. The goal: To jump as many pieces from the other side as possible to win the game.
It's not until we stop playing games that we really start to communicate.
Men and women are equally complicated, just in different ways. It's almost like we grow up in different cultures, so trying to understand each other is kind of like trying to communicate with someone who grew up in a different country, speaks a different language and has totally different customs. But you can learn to translate.
Women learn communication when they are very young, and over years of practive with their friends, become quite good at it. For guys, communication is full of risk. It's not about connecting with each other, as it is for girls, it's about competing. It's like you're speaking French and he's speaking Chinese, but it sounds kind of alike so you don't realize at first that the same words mean totally different things to each of you.
For him to open up to you, he has to feel totally safe. He has to know that you won't judge him, criticize him or make fun of him. If he senses any of that, he'll close right up. Try to listen without any judgement, and don't rush to respond. He can feel overwhelmed by too much talk. If you can learn to be more comfortable with the silences, it will be easier for him to fill them. Guys are much better at talking about things than feelings. Start with that. If he's talking abaout what's wrong with his car, and you say "You sound frustrated," he may be able to talk about that. And bit by bit, talking about feeling frustrated, or about other feelings, may become normal for him.
If you were having a conversation with one of your girlfriends and she shared feeling frustrated, you would probably talk about something that felt that way to you. It's how you show you understand and support her. Don't do that with your man. He'll wonder "Why are we talking about her all of a sudden?" Just listen. Ask some simple questions. Not too many or too long. Be supportive. "That must have been hard for you honey," is fine.
Think of it as spending a year in Italy but knowing nothing of the language. You would pay close attention to how other people speak, wave their hands, how they communicate in different situations. The same thing will work with men. What gets in the way is assuming you already know the language. You don't.
Good luck to you.
Perhaps it's the males you surround yourself with? I'm not being sarcastic, but I truly don't have any issues talking with men, and if they really are more "simple" then that works for me - the less drama the better. My fiancee and I have a wonderful relationship, with great communication, and I know plenty of other women who do as well. Try a different type of guy - trust me - there are alot of great men out there - they do make the best friends.
One reason is guys get so many mixed messages.
Ever see the movie Tootsie? It's from '82 stars Dustin Hoffman and Jessica Lange. Hoffman is a difficult to work with actor who finds success masquerading as a woman (Tootsie) on a day time soap. No one knows he's a fake, most of all Jessica Lange, one of the other stars on the TV program. Lange tells Tootsie everything she ever wanted to hear a man say.
Hoffman is a attracted to Lange and he knows she will be at a party later on. He goes to the party not as Tootsie but himself. Lange doesn't recognize him and Hoffman approaches her and says verbatim everything Lange told Tootsie. Lange's reaction? -she slaps him.
Once I had a gf ask me about my past, my thoughts and feelings. Stupid me I told her. After that I had to deal with a lot of questions and judgment I could have done without.
No one really respects somebody who is completely honest, if you want a guy to talk to you, you have to make it safe for him to speak up, there as to be an incentive, otherwise why should he?
Guys want communication when it is convienent for them, but dont want to talk about their feelings. They want women to talk to them about everything because they think they can solve our problems. Are guys complicated? of course they are--to women. Are women complicated? of course--men can't figure us out. This is something that will never change, humans will never fully understand the opposite sex as a whole, however, when you love someone, you can usually figure them out no matter what is bothering them.
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