How do you keep negative memories of times you were mistreated or made a fool of out of mind?
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The only way to truly keep those memories from plaguing you is to deal with them and forgive those that hurt you, You also need to forgive yourself for being hurt. I know this sounds like psycho-babble, but I am speaking from experience. I have finally dealt with my past and am now much happier, more confident, and those memories are just that...memories. Good luck, and don't lie to yourself about any of it...it only prolongs the healing.
I often times find myself reliving bad memories too, over and over and they get me really upset sometimes. Then I say to myself that honestly, no one else gives a f*** and neither should I. It usually helps, just know that no one else is thinking about it, just you.
I ADVICE IS TRY NOT 2 THINK BOUT IT.. U HAVE 2 TRY 2 REMEMBER THE GOOD THINGS DAT HAPPEN IN UR LIFE.. REMEMBER LIFE KEEP MOVIN FORWARD EVEN IF U R NOT!! SO MOVE FORWARD WITH UR LIFE.. FU*k whoever made ur life miserable
I am the same...I have to keep going though as I have kids...
I try not to think. instead I drown it out with making myself busy. when something comes up with someone that has involvement and it makes me think of some bad stuff and I just want to blurt it out how hurt I am by it, I have to hold my tongue and keep the peace..
.it's hard and people just want you to shut up and forget about it if you do say something. they don't want there evils chucked in there face.. and talking to others about it like Friends or none offenders isn't good as they are shocked by it and it is shame full stuff....so yea it's hard..
but I guess that's why we have councilors and psychologists and anti depressants and good friends (if you are very lucky)... I sympathies with you...
the cure...
I do believe it all has to come out before we can start making our own happy memory's so I wish you all the best on it and for the rest of your journey..... good luck
Some how you need to get it out so you can resolve it and put it behind you. Talking, writing, punching pillows...that kind of thing.
Get a book by Jack Kornfield or Joseph Goldstein on mindfulness meditation. Getting to know how your mind works helps tremendously in controlling it s that you create more pleasant moments.
Whenever, a negative though enters your mind, say to yourself "the sky is blue". This neutralizing thought will help nullify the negative thought and put it into the same category. This idea is courtesy of Joseph Goldstein.
Take the person that offended you and tried to remember what that person did to you. In your mind paint big floppy ears on him. Turn them into a Dumbo the elephant. Or some other cartoon character. The more extravagant the better. Until you have turned the whole event into a cartoon. By doing this it will distort your memory into a happy memory or a funny memory. You can't erase the memory but by adding to the memory it will keep it from being so painful. This has work for me many times in my life on very very painful things Good luck
Yes, it's true what you are saying. I think you just have to accept these negative memories - everything that happens to you is part of who you are and can't be ignored, repressed, forgotten. However, you should not let these negative memories rule your life today. Let the past be the past, even though, you still remember. Try to go on with your life in a positive way so that in the future, you may have some pleasant memories to think of.
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