I am not intrested in sex please help?
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Rita, please dont be upset. This is a common problem faced by most of the women / men. The simple solution is doing the things is different way... and add some new things into it. please calm down. The basic problem is psychological or emotional. You need a change in what you were doing till date. I will suggest you the following - (1) change your bed-room location - if possible. (2) try fore-play before intercourse (3) use latest kinds of inner-wear / lingerie and use mild perfumes and makeup before sex (4) soft music and dim lights in room are must (5) talk to each-other, touch, carress, kiss and discuss on new sex positions (6) once a while take a small vacation to some resorts nearby (7) regular exercise, morning and evening walks with husband (8) take bath together (9) try sex other than bedroom such as sofa, kitchen platform, stairs, in balcony in late night, try differenct positions, oral sex etc. You can mail me at contact_nsd2002@yahoo.co.in
You need to see a psychologist or a sex therapist.
You could pretend, you could make-believe you are doing something else that you enjoy, or as they say, you could "grin and bear it," all things which I despise. But all these options would be better than losing your husband, which you will surely do, as you say.
After all you are only 32 and have been married for only 12 years.
Hi.
The reason is probably physical. You should see a doctor. I am sure it is easy for a professional to figure this out. If your doctor can´t find a reason you should see another one.
Good luck!!
This question can be taken in two ways. It is a simple question, as it appears, but it may be a complicated one also.The reasons for loosing interest in sex are as many as having reasons for a head-ache. In your case, it is not loosing interest subsequently, but you said, "never enjoyed." This is basically (1) either you had certain fears, dis-likes, phobia about sex or (2) the way your husband starts, makes, and ends is not liked by you or (3) your bedroom, house, inmates, decotation etc not congenial to have care-free sex or (4) your glands like pituary, thyroid etc are not functioning properly or (5) you or your hubby never attempted to get clean (bodily) and attractive, or romantic by reading, viewing, observing because of pressing problems in house, body or in mind. Please note that sex is not in organs but in mind and heart. Your question reflects that your husband is cooperative. So just stop thinking that sex is not enjoyed by you, hereafter leave everything behind and invite your husband for sex with full heart, may be in a holiday station. You will definitely enjoy, best of luck.
Your issue is in the present so try not to waste you time on the past.
Have you had a physical lately?
Do you and your husband date?
Are you and your husband making an effort to set aside time to bond and be playful?
Do your children take priority over your marital bond?
Do you feel guilty for being intimate or sexy? If so, stop that (respectively). Add some flavor to your present beauty ; )
Is your bedroom your domain exclusively or do your kids and everyone elses occupy it too much ..watch tv, do their homework, hang out etc.?
Maybe it's time to move your bedroom around - redecorate - or change things out a bit in addition to making your bed very comfortable for sleeping. We tend to buy comfortable furniture and even cars based on comfort but some forget their bed is where they spend at least eight hours straight so comfort according to you and hubby should be top priority. Even single people should take care to get a good rest. Are you and hubby getting good rest?
How much balance is in your marital life right now? Do you spend time with friends, family, a personal interest or is there too much personal interest going on and not enough bonding time?
Your answer is within your question - do the opposite - it's ok to create fun, spice up your marriage, and be a couple.
It is not fit to be discussed publicly which tantamount to washing your dirty linen in public. There are plenty of Doctors to help you which you are well aware. This is foolery.
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