My confidence?
Answer:
It's because when you are pissed you know someone or a situation has crossed a very specific line (set of hardened beliefs) that is true for you. That line is sacred to you and when challenged you will defend it almost without thought and decisions might be easier to make at this time since your set of beliefs is strongly emotionally supported when you are pissed. (Decision, actually, means to 'cut away' other possibilities.) To maintain this confidence, believe in your ideas more. Believe in yourself and your right to who you are and what you think. So, basically, think you are right more.
Be wary though. There are those who have confidence yet who have skewed, unrealistic, socially unethical, or socially immoral beliefs. (I'm sure you can think of examples of this in your circles you run, the confident blow-hard that actually seems like an idiot to you.) Align your beliefs closer with reality and the more you'll be respected for your confidence. Also, the better you do this, the less you have to be an a**hole. Confidence and assertiveness have no correlation with being a domineering jerk.
Excellent question! I think it's all about how you are wired, where the nuerons are going etc. I have confidence in spurts as well. But it's different then yours. Oddly, my confidence goes up when I am in the presence of high level managers at my work (one's I have great esteem for that is) and when I am rewarded with responsibility. It's hard to change your wiring. I think perhaps you need to learn more about yourself, what makes you tick, fell good, self observe yourself in a variety of situations and look for cues for when your confidence goes up and down. Honestly it is a self discovery process. Also, ask others that you can confide in for patterns of behavior and the correlating situations they occur in. The more you know about yourself, the better you can tune into those clues and improve your confidence overall. Hope this helps. Interesting question.
Be happy for your parents did a great job in shaping your behavior towards life and its harshness, plus the fact that you could be some extraordinary person with extraordinary skills.
Awareness is the key to confidence.
It seems you are fluctuating between one extreme and another. It could be that you are passive aggressive. Normally just swallow when you are confronted. That causes people around you to unconsciously see you as a victim and walk all over you. That would cause everything to start piling up inside you like a volcano. Then you get pissed and probably aggressive and people submit then because they are surprised and fearful. Look up the three styles: Passive aggressive, aggressive aggressive and finally assertive. Being passive aggressive means you generally shy away from disputes and absorb the stress around you or called 'jelly-fish'. Aggressive aggressive is generally when you attack and defend then ask questions later or called "brick wall". Assertive is generally standing up for yourself and your beliefs without infringing on others - if you can leave an interaction with both people's self-esteem intact you have completed an amazing thing.
Pissed equals stress within and also the projection of it. Also you are saying that other people don't exist.how's that working out? I mean some people do really intrusive things and so boundaries are the key but ignoring everyone? You are missing out on part of life - is this feeding into something you don't like ..anger?
It's like trying to believe something tastes really good while having a stuffy nose..taste will never be a belief it's an experience (good or bad). When you are angry/ignoring everything all the time U are not experiencing _____.
By making an opinion of urself as confident
The answers post by the user, for information only, FunQA.com does not guarantee the right.
More Questions and Answers: