What do I do, We keep breaking up and getting back every 6 months, and Its been 1.5 yrs however I love him?
no matter how many times we break up and get back, I cant get enough of him, and he cant of me.
I mean, Its ofically love thats why I keep doing this - Ive told him already that the one thing I hate is how we keep drifting away, but we get back with the same ease.
More: When we break up, its usually cause he says its over, and
then I dont say much to him, we usually just let things sort out with the passing of time.
In between he was in town, and i did not meet him simply cause he told me before he couldnt accept my past, and i said fine. But a few months we met, and that was that -
Initally he didnt accept my past - however he does now, and i am not sure however - how mucb i should get involved in this - cause i know I will always love him, but How do i know where he is at?
Ive thought of moving on, but everytime another guy asks me out, I keep thinking of the one I love and say no to the new one...
Plz advice, what do i do?How? Why?
whats going on here??
Answer:
After looking at your other posts, it seems pretty clear. He is or was a cheater...i'm not sure exactly what YOUR past is, but it too has been an issue. You break up and don't speak to each other for a long time during these breaks. This is a seriously unhealthy relationship. Find some way to pull your self esteem out of the gutter and move on. He's just not that into you. It doesn't matter why. This guy is NOT Mr. Right, so stop turing down other possible Mr. Rights...You're wasting precious time.
Looks like you are a port in a storm, babe. Sounds like either or both of you are immature. If you keep hanging in there, it may only be heartbreak for you and a real good case of AIDS. Why let him pull the strings anyhow. Stand the dude on his head and see which way he heads out. Hopefully gone.
This isn't love, its obsession. Its hard to believe but sometimes you can't trust your feelings. You are looking for a rational for your obsession(you may want to figure out why you are obsessed) and that rational is "love". Love is a healthy thing, this relationship is not.
If you can't stay together with someone, then you aren't in love. Break it off, keep it off, and move on. You may not want to but that is what you HAVE to do.
Love that is a funny thing it makes us all do ? things, if he loves you then you will know it, that doesn't mean you should be together if it is not going to work out or be what you might want it to be. There are all kinds of love. Are you happy with it? Are you ever going to be happy with it? What makes you feel safe about it? I disagree that love is not a difficult thing, to really love there are going to be ups and downs and if you really love then yeah you might want to hang in there with it, but if it isn't what you want and he isn't making you happy in any way then you might want to move on.
1.5 years is not that long. you'll get over it. there's a million fish in the sea. when a guy says it's over, its over. you're woth more than that. you're not a pair of nasty socks that he take off and on. move on.
love aint that difficult. you just gotta find the right one. TRUST me, love is easy. true love just happens.
He's just breaking up with you because he wants to have sex with someone else and the excuse when you find out about it is well we were broken up. I have been through this so I know. But right now today he wants me back because he went got a girl friend and I didn't want anyone including him and just because I was by myself he seen me as always his. But now he's in jail and his girlfriend don't go to see him so he calls me. But now I'm pregnant for another guy and he feels guilty for leaving me and his sons but he chose this.
first of all put all issues aside.
the girls go over each and every detail,over and over sorting and trying to evaluate, to find hidden clues, and reasoning and logic to each and everything the guys say and do.
the guys, normally do not involve so much detail, give them food and the remote *and the other thing too* and the basics are covered. The thing is with guys, when you fight no matter about what, when you have sex, you have made up. its another day. fight is over. and it doesn't matter that nothing has been resolved, you had sex, all is forgiven, and go to next chapter.
maybe this will help, its the venus mars shortened version. and i've been married 17 yrs. it took years to figure this out.
hey, this guy is using you, just get rid of him. & don't forget there are billions of people in this world, & you can find another of your choice.
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I mean, Its ofically love thats why I keep doing this - Ive told him already that the one thing I hate is how we keep drifting away, but we get back with the same ease.
More: When we break up, its usually cause he says its over, and
then I dont say much to him, we usually just let things sort out with the passing of time.
In between he was in town, and i did not meet him simply cause he told me before he couldnt accept my past, and i said fine. But a few months we met, and that was that -
Initally he didnt accept my past - however he does now, and i am not sure however - how mucb i should get involved in this - cause i know I will always love him, but How do i know where he is at?
Ive thought of moving on, but everytime another guy asks me out, I keep thinking of the one I love and say no to the new one...
Plz advice, what do i do?How? Why?
whats going on here??
Answer:
After looking at your other posts, it seems pretty clear. He is or was a cheater...i'm not sure exactly what YOUR past is, but it too has been an issue. You break up and don't speak to each other for a long time during these breaks. This is a seriously unhealthy relationship. Find some way to pull your self esteem out of the gutter and move on. He's just not that into you. It doesn't matter why. This guy is NOT Mr. Right, so stop turing down other possible Mr. Rights...You're wasting precious time.
Looks like you are a port in a storm, babe. Sounds like either or both of you are immature. If you keep hanging in there, it may only be heartbreak for you and a real good case of AIDS. Why let him pull the strings anyhow. Stand the dude on his head and see which way he heads out. Hopefully gone.
This isn't love, its obsession. Its hard to believe but sometimes you can't trust your feelings. You are looking for a rational for your obsession(you may want to figure out why you are obsessed) and that rational is "love". Love is a healthy thing, this relationship is not.
If you can't stay together with someone, then you aren't in love. Break it off, keep it off, and move on. You may not want to but that is what you HAVE to do.
Love that is a funny thing it makes us all do ? things, if he loves you then you will know it, that doesn't mean you should be together if it is not going to work out or be what you might want it to be. There are all kinds of love. Are you happy with it? Are you ever going to be happy with it? What makes you feel safe about it? I disagree that love is not a difficult thing, to really love there are going to be ups and downs and if you really love then yeah you might want to hang in there with it, but if it isn't what you want and he isn't making you happy in any way then you might want to move on.
1.5 years is not that long. you'll get over it. there's a million fish in the sea. when a guy says it's over, its over. you're woth more than that. you're not a pair of nasty socks that he take off and on. move on.
love aint that difficult. you just gotta find the right one. TRUST me, love is easy. true love just happens.
He's just breaking up with you because he wants to have sex with someone else and the excuse when you find out about it is well we were broken up. I have been through this so I know. But right now today he wants me back because he went got a girl friend and I didn't want anyone including him and just because I was by myself he seen me as always his. But now he's in jail and his girlfriend don't go to see him so he calls me. But now I'm pregnant for another guy and he feels guilty for leaving me and his sons but he chose this.
first of all put all issues aside.
the girls go over each and every detail,over and over sorting and trying to evaluate, to find hidden clues, and reasoning and logic to each and everything the guys say and do.
the guys, normally do not involve so much detail, give them food and the remote *and the other thing too* and the basics are covered. The thing is with guys, when you fight no matter about what, when you have sex, you have made up. its another day. fight is over. and it doesn't matter that nothing has been resolved, you had sex, all is forgiven, and go to next chapter.
maybe this will help, its the venus mars shortened version. and i've been married 17 yrs. it took years to figure this out.
hey, this guy is using you, just get rid of him. & don't forget there are billions of people in this world, & you can find another of your choice.
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