Why is it?
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Your last sentence is the key. You have to project an attitude of peace not only about the broken jar but also about the overreaction of others. Treat the drama addicts the same way you would a broken jar. Clean them up with no emotional reaction. For instance, say calmly, "It's unfortunate that you find this so distressing. " Then go back to what you were doing before. If you want to change their behavior, don't respond at all to their rant. Respond when they become calm again.
Once you figure it out please let me know...I'm one of those and I'd flip about a broken jar of Ragu.
you can't teach people this...they have to be quiet and Listen
I know how you feel. when people start freaking out about ridiculous things, it's hard for me to keep my temper or good humour, since to me they're acting like children. What I do is go through the motions with them. Jar of broken sauce? I make a comment that expresses what everyone is likely feeling (like "oops", or "son of a *****",) then when they start freaking, I talk to them calmly and reassure them it's no big deal. I explain *why* it's no big deal, and explain what I'm doing as I help fix it. Like in an emergency situation, you can try giving them a job to do to help. It helps focus them and makes them contribute to the solution so they can see it's not that bad. I make gentle jokes about it, too, sometimes, to ease the surprise/startlement of the problem.
*smash!*
ME: "Damnit"
THEM: "Oh my god, it went all over the floor, holy-"
ME: "It's all right, just a jar. Ok, that kinda does suck, since it was the last one, but I have a different sauce. Now we're having it Alfredo. Mamma mia."
THEM: "Now there's a mess and the dinner and my cupboards are filthy-"
ME: "I'll get a rag. Can you get the garbage can? I want to pick this crap up before som knob steps on it. Like me."
THEM: "Uh...Ok."
ME: "There. Now your floor has the sweet and tangy smell of Italia about it. Where did I put that Alfredo?"
Results may vary, but it's better to lead by interactive example then to try and blow sunshine up their butts. Besides, a problem solved together is better than laying blame.
on my experience about that kind of people they just want to a center of attractions all the time.you want to teach them on a right way but they just ignored or made an big issue of it.the best way you do to find out if they are your friends or really network you want to hang up.these kind of people do not know how to listen,understanding,advice,re... and communicate in a right conversations.they just want to hear their own voice.when you are around them tell them directly that you can listen them about 10min. because that kind of friends you are not interested.do not hang and waste your time for them.maybe you can find who have really same ideas or common way as you.
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