What is going on here?
She lost her job five months ago and has failed to look for a new job, she has even been offered jobs (she's very good in her field) and refused them.
She met a guy about 4 months ago. He is 19. They are now engaged to be married in less than a month. They have also decided not to use any form of birth control.
I just dont get it. She is now a completely different person from what I knew before.
Has anyone had any similar experences? What happened? What did you do (if anything)?
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The ms,, It could be a few things in my opinion ==1=does she do drugs? cause i've seen a lot of good girls gone wild. 2=about the age of 30 a lady goes thru a lot of emotions,like im alone and im so lucky to get anybody that i'le take anything i can get and turn him into what i really want him to be 3=maybe shes getting out of a bad relationship and her self ego is shot and she's just so happy that it might be getting out of control. I could go on but they are endless..But in my opinion,the lady is going to make a really big mistake and if you try to tell her you'll lose a friend. But honestly it may happen,but my money says,somebodys going for a ride. And if you try to tell her you might lose her forever. Test the waters?? She will need a friend,im sure later on..Your a good pal, try to hang with her if possible..You got good-heart and good game..Hang in there sister..
wow shes out of her mind and her hormones are wild! shes 10 years older than this guy and i am afraid she will regret all this after she gets back on her feet .. Shes floating!
She will wake up soon. Don't worry. If you get in to her love life to much she will say you are mad about her relationship.
She must see it for her self. I think she loving the fact that she have a younger man.
Well Good luck
I hate to say this, but it sounds a lot like drug use might be involved. Does she have mood swings and/or is her personality different than it used to be? If so, I really think that could be a cause. I haven't really dealt with that (if that's it) with any close friends, but I would suggest you just talk to her and be honest. Tell her you're concerned about her well-being (with I statements..."I'm concerned about you" as opposed to "You're behaving so erratically and it's bound to get you into trouble). Offer to help her get back on track if she needs help (like, help with life issues, not picking up her boyfriend when he gets off work at Dairy Queen). But if she refuses to talk to you or only tries to engage you in fighting or make your life difficult, you're just going to have to keep your distance in order to protect yourself. I hope everything works out!
Sounds like drug abuse and/or mental illness. Unfortunately, she probably won't be open to getting help until she "hits bottom" and becomes depressed.
Or, if her friends and family would join in an intervention led by a professional, she might be convinced to get help.
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