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In the past 6 weeks, I have suffered a miscarriage and been diagnosed with cancer. My husband and his father, who work together, have been fighting nonstop. We're also in the process of purchasing a new house. The cancer is under control, which is great. I am a person who, in the past, has never said I'm stressed. I've always been really relaxed and laid back, but now I am having major difficulties. My husband has been great and really supported me, but I find myself at wit's end. If there's too much traffic, I break down. Someone gets in my way in the grocery store, I lose it. I can't handle much, and I'm hating it. All I want to do is sleep, but then I have insomnia. I've lost all my sex drive. What do I do? I'm sick of this.

Answer:
Allison, you have had major trauma in your life. A miscarriage is devastating for any woman; loosing a precious life, a baby that you were looking forward to, is so sad and stressful for you. Now, add on the news you have cancer and that magnifies your stress tenfold. Give yourself time to regain your laid back personality by not doing too much, maybe take a long week end with your husband, diverse your normal schedule by just relaxing, reading, watch movies and just be good to yourself. Pamper yourself at the beauty salon, have a pedicure and manicure, a facial . . . . . you will eventually overcome the stress and be able to come to terms with the shock that you have experienced. God bless you dear.

You need to consult with a professional therapist.

It sounds like your tolerance for pain and negative life experiences has been reached. You must determine the best method for releasing that pain and anxiety. A therapist can identify, with your help, the source of your angst, and a methodology for releasing the tension that you are feeling.

In the interim, know that joy and contentment exist only in the present. Try to focus your awareness to the right here, right now. You can, if you choose, relegate your negative thoughts to the background of your consciousness.

Metaphorically speaking, you can choose to sit on the beach and watch the waves crash against the shore. You can be acutely aware of the waves' fury, but also be completely free of their destructive effects.

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