Why is our biggest fear our biggest fear?
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Basically, you're afraid that you aren't strong enough to cope with whatever that object of fear could do to you. You can trace all fear back to that.
For example, I fear getting into a car accident, because I might become disfigured, because that may make people treat me with less dignity and reject me, because I won't know how to handle being rejected.
Or, I fear my child crossing the street unattended, because they might get killed, because I won't know how to handle the loss of my child.
The thing is, if you ever get to the point where you inherently know you can handle any obstacle, any set-back, any pain, you no longer fear it. You act with serenity instead of fear.
To turn around the examples and show what it is to act with serenity instead of fear would look like this:
I like putting my seat belt on because if I do get into a car accident that might minimize any damage to me because I would want to not be disfigured because I like how people relate to me now and I don't see a reason to change that. But, should I get into a car accident that disfigures me, I would be ok with that. It'll just be a different life with different lessons to learn how to love others and myself as is.
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I like my child so much that I would make sure they aren't near any streets unattented so they don't get hurt and possibly killed. But, if ever that happens while I'm alive, I know I'll be ok and after a certain time of grieving I can move on with my life. But, for now, I'll do what I can to keep this kid that I enjoy and love around for as long as I can.
Since you were traumatized at such a young age while your mental being is still going, you associate fear with that item. Every time you see bugs your automatic instinct is to scream and run and hide.
It always what the fear represents and not the actual symbol itself. To use your example of someone who is exposed to a bug at an early age then has a fear of bugs, what is really happening here is that the child's perception of the bug is the issue. Some children can see a bug and think pretty or nice or whatever positive association. But if the bug surprised the child and it was strange, then it was the shock that really generated the fear and the child then associates the fear with the bug. If the bug perhaps bit him or appeared to attack him, then he associates the bug with fear of pain or death.
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