Why do people lie? It does not accomplish anything except the delayed truth.?
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I can tell you based on my personal experience, due to fact that my mother believed in corporal punishment, I didn't even realize until recently that I had become a compulsive liar. I actually can remember teaching myself how to lie (anything is better than being hurt by your own mother) but, thought I still had control over how and when I would lie. I now can see how deep these lies go and how much I am lying to myself unintentionally. This of course can distort the truth to the point that you start to feel yourself loosing control over yourself and can't seem to figure out why.
This is bigger than I think people realize I still have trouble believing this myself and often wonder how many people do this (some may vary in the severity) and never figure it out. This is one example others come from lack of self confidence or self esteem, which makes someone feel that they need to lie to get people to think better of them or to feel like they aren't at such a disadvantage.
People lie for many reasons and we shouldn't be so quick to judge them more than likely they had many hardships that lead them to feeling like they had to. Sometimes patients and understanding goes a long way, if that person feels like you will accept them and their flaws the need to lie will lessen.
People lie to avoid punishment
People lie to gain an advantage. You should read Plato's Republic if you want an interesting dialogue on why people lie and deceive each other as it relates to justice.
Empty data bank.
Sometime to squirm their way out on being cornered and walk away with it.
With no harms done.
With time get kick on the butts.
Luke 8.17
its human instinct to defend one's self when cornered. wink!
"Why" - To control truth from surfacing...at least that is what the *dream* is.
Children lie to achieve getting away with their chosen innappropriate behavior. It is direct proof they know they did something wrong and a clear sign that they feel they should avoid consequences they made the choice to bring upon themselves - arrogance. To say consequences 'cause' lying is manipulative in itself and any adult that claims this is living an imature rebellious life and should refreign from advocating when it comes to children - to excuse *lying* is to justify *lying* when it comes to themselves. so condonation. These people are not good role models to children due to their enabling and suggestive behavior. Children lie for the same reasons adults lie...to control the thoughts of another and if not dealt with will become adult habit with consequence. If a parent asks a child a question and the child chooses to be dishonest they have now chosen to be in double trouble and so now have two issues to address with the assistance of their parents - which is up to the mature parent and according to the age of the child. If a child's lying is enabled by ANY adult in their environment that person is a dishonest person and encouraging dishonesty as a valuable trait for a person to have. In reality that is selfish and could include agenda where a child is used by that adult to achieve something and to accomplish that is living thru the child. Pathological liars will use children to argue with people and be the first to intrude on adults that have concern for the child's moral health...perhaps they want money, out of their responsibility, hate truth, love negative attention, want to make themselves appear as a savior to the child, or are jealous that the child has a parent(s) who love them enough to discipline them. Obviously the young would see this as encouragement of rebellion and not the works of an adult who could care less what their teaching children...and so would be drawn to comply.
Fact: Honesty is available to everyone and so for those that make the choice to lie they are attempting to cover up truth using false statement and so choosing to lie. To claim there are no other choices is false.
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