Why do people tease each other?
I've often wondered why people do this. Personally, I think that it's stupid, hurtful and childish (I believe you should stop doing it once you get to your 13th birthday). Some people may argue that it's a form of bonding but surely there are healthier, more respectful ways of doing that. Also, it can sometimes be how bullying starts.
So, why do people do it and how can you make the people in your life stop doing it to you? (For the record, I've tried getting angry, explaining how much it hurts me and answering back and none of those have worked.)
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Nobody should ever take themselves too seriously to not be able to handle some playful teasing. You trip, you laugh at yourself... life would be too dull not to.
b/c it is fun.
its fun and your avatar looks like a retarded mole wearing a wig
Because they don't like something about themselves so they have to take it out on someone else. I have a 5 year old who has trichotillomania. She pulls her hair out and has bald spots all over her head. She is seeing psych about it, but this has been going on since she was little. I have actually gotten into arguments with GROWN WOMEN and teenage boys and girls for picking at her. YES I SAID GROWN WOMEN. They would tell her she looked like a boy and would just make her cry. I understand making a mistake but when you flat out tell a child that she is ugly and looks like a boy - well that is going to far.
So what did I do? I told the woman that she wouldn't be saying that if she were bald so I snatched her wig off in the middle of walmart. Maybe that was wrong but who else was going to make her shut her big mouth?
My point is that no matter what, someone is going to find a flaw in you and everyone else just because they don't like something about themselves. So don't sweat the small stuff and remember the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Also remember this: Give and you shall Receive.
my brothers used to tease me a lot when i was little and they made me cry countless times. i believe it's part of growing up and recalling those times now, made me laugh. if we take the teasing seriously and we get offended, the teaser gets the satisfation in extracting that reaction from us. try to ignore them and tell yourself that you know better.
it's a common occurence in school that you should learn how to handle this in a kind manner. it's a part of our daily life. take care.
There isn't just a single reason for teasing. It depends on the teaser and the...um.teasie?
Some might do it, because they want to say something they think or feel, but cannot do it without seeming like teasing. As Shakespeare said, "Naught a word is spoken in jest."
Some might do it just for fun, a way of bonding, with the hope that the person will tease them back.
It can be a kind of competition, which is why I think men tend to do it more than women.
And certainly, just like playing word games, or puzzles, it can be simply just a form of entertainment. Depends on the type of teasing and how serious/brutal it can be.
A certain amount probably doesn't hurt, and keeps people from being too arrogant? But then there are a lot of ultra sensitive people out there, as you well know.
I think the easiest way would either to say something hurtful back, which depending on the person, might just encourage them to try harder.
My best opinion, you just absolutely ignore them whenever they say something hurtful. Walk away, leave etc. If you react angry, that will encourage the majority of people. This will take patience, and will might have an effect the first few times. You have to keep doing it.
you can't make someone change
you're right, there are healthier ways to interact - but think of this - if they grew up being teased playfully by parents, this is how they learned from early on what it means to love - everyone forms slightly different ideas of what various things mean, and these people can't know that it doesn't feel the same to you as it does to them - maybe it would help to look at where it came from more than what they are saying
as far as what you listed as trying to stop it... adults probably told you in childhood years, kids tease to get a reaction, so those things probably encourage it - they say to ignore it and they'll stop, but personally i think being direct will work better - "i get that you don't mean it in a hurtful way, but i just don't like it" and then redirect the mood - if it happens again, remind them again - keep your emotions out of it - just say you don't like it, without being harsh or hurt, and keep going
but there will be people throughout your life who act like this, so i think in the long run, you'd best benefit from, as people say 'lightening up a bit' - easier said than done, i know - but if you know they don't mean to hurt you, train yourself not to feel hurt, by just remembering intent
hope this helps - take care
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Because it can in some od way make them feel superior to the ones they are teasing or perhaps its a cover or protection mechanism for their own personal insecurity. However some people just enjoy being down right nasty and cant live without hurting people, it becomes addictive and a natural part of their lives.
Sounds to me like it's one particular nasty person that's doing this to you, because most decent people would stop if you objected. Drop them out of you life, i.e just totally ignore them and avoid their company. They'll either learn and eventually realise that you're not the 'push over' they, AND YOU, think you are and start showing you a little more of the respect you rightly deserve. Good luck!!
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I was right about it being mainly one person, but hadn't reckoned on it being a sibling. You must have more 'going for you' than her, i.e. better looking, nicer figure, or something, and she's very jealous of you - Very difficult to "drop" her out of your life and ignore her, naturally, but it could be done. I assume, at her age she lives elsewhere? If so leave the room and lock yourself in your bedroom when she visits. Refuse to attend family gatherings if she is going to be there. This will not be necessary for ever, but you must make your point that her constant 'nastiness', that she thinks that everyone else thinks is just 'fun', has become a total pain.
Stand your ground. What goes around, comes around. She'll get her comeuppance!! In the meanwhile, as well as what I've advised, Just take it as it comes. Your sister is very sad and you should, really, feel sorry for her unfortunate illness (because that's what jealousy is) and remember, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, BUT NAMES CAN NEVER HURT ME!". Just shrug it off, like water off a duck's back, and enjoy your life. God luck, kid.
I totally agree with you.
I think in a way, sometimes it is just playful, 'you know I'm only teasing stuff'. The type of thing your parents will do in front of your friend / boyfriend / girlfriend etc.
Then there is the type that you are talking about, the hurtful type that your peers, sometimes people you don't even now will do. Which I don't think should be encouraged.
The second type that I've mentioned I think is done because someone is jealous of you or that particular thing that they are teasing you about.
I hope this has helped!
siblings teasing is a harmless way of relieving frustration they experience at being in a houshold with others
They cant tease their caretakers as they provide for them so their frustrations are taken out on their siblings and friends
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