Shyness impossible to overcome?
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It is not impossible to overcome, but it can be very hard. I used to be so shy that I basically never spoke to anyone except for people I already knew well (family, long-time friends). I wouldn't even ask a stranger with a watch to tell me the time! I am still shy, but not nearly so much. What helped me was to find an activity that I really liked and then find other people interested in that same thing (some examples--a sculpting class, a book discussion club, etc). That way you have a common topic to talk about with new people. When I entered college, I also started forcing myself to talk to one new person each week--I would usually open the conversation by asking a question about something that happened in class. Even though I was terrified and really uncomfortable, eventually it got easier. Also if you have an outgoing friend, ask them to help you. I was lucky enough to become friends with a really nice, outgoing person who introduced me to lots of new people, some of whom later became friends too. Anyway, I am still shy (I hate parties where there are a bunch of people I don't know or barely know), but not so shy that I am totally isolated or can't have a casual conversation with a classmate.
I wouldn't panic about the girlfriend part. I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 20. My sister (who also used to be very very shy) didn't have a boyfriend until she was 23. My husband, who is still a little on the shy side, didn't have a girlfriend until he was 21. So you are not alone! There is no timetable for getting a girlfriend--when the time and the girl are right, it will happen.
I dont think im anywhere near as shy as I used to be
Oh, shyness is NOT impossible to overcome.
Mail me if you want more details. I want to help you, but can't do so until we get a conversation going. :)
You dont think to highly of yourself do you.
No, it is not impossible to overcome. Once you have taken a "risk" and done something to get away from your shyness, such as striking up a conversation with a stranger, you will feel a little more comfortable doing it more and more often. Eventually you will break out of your shyness, you just need to practice in those types of situations and gain the confidence that you need.
no it's not impossible to overcome! try counseling or an online support group. practice with people you don't know - or people you do know!
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