How can i get over my shyness as im finding its hindering my life?
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Join a club of some sort,
this will introduce to a wider circle of members and friends.
It's all up to you my friend get out and grab it
take a public speaking class and tell your teacher about the condition you have. or get a job as a lifeguard or somthing, something were u have to tell people to do somthing, like telling some1 to walk not run. ect...
well i was abit like you, but now im the loudest person there is. ha ha!, think of all your friends and the one who is most out going and not shy try and stick with them for a bit... even if u dont like them or u think there over the top, stick with them and go out with them even if its just to get tips. if they do something that might you thinks woooooow no way! then try it you never know u might like it...
Just pretend you're not, easier said than done but with practice gets easier, visualise a person that to you envisions confidence - go up to people and say hi. Remember most people are just as shy as you - they just wear a people mask.
Hun, I really empathise. I used to be the shyest person on the planet (okay not the planet, but you get the gist). Now people laugh when I tell them I used to be shy.
There are many things that contribute to conquering shyness. I took an assertiveness course – best money I ever paid. It teaches you to feel confident about your own needs and desires, while still respecting other people’s.
However, the most valuable changes were more internal:
Recognising your abilities – everyone can do something other people admire. If you value yourself other people will value you too.
Not taking myself seriously – my shyness was triggered by what other people ‘might’ think of me. However, you can’t second-guess people and in all likelihood they aren’t thinking the damning thoughts you think.
The worst that can happen is that people laugh ‘at’ you – while that might sound dreadful at the moment, it doesn’t actually mean anything if you know that you’re great. Turn it around by making a joke about yourself too – that means people will be laughing with you, rather than at you.
Most of all believe that you have as much right to voice your opinions as anyone else, and practice makes perfect.
Good luck, you can do it.
IT is just a human thing. People are intravery (shy) or extravert (out going). Know that it's OK to be an intravert and a thinker. Be nice to you.
I used to hate myself (real bad) because I was too afraid to speak up. I was very mean to me. I would think of things to say but by the time I almost got brave enough to say something - the moment has passed. It was a big cycle.
I am no longer shy. First I studied everything I could about a a certain subject that interested me. Then when I would go into a crowded room I would tell mysef that I knew more about this that anyone in the whole room. No body knew anything but reminding myself that I wasn't dumb on this one subject helped me lessen my seft-talk about being dumb.
Then when i was in college I had a class that required participation. It was really hard. I'd think of this and that but then not say anything because it "sounded dumb" Then this woman kept talking and talking. She was so ou it of line, inappropiate and disruptive. But she wasn't afraid to tallk.
She came across like such an *** finally realized that no mater how hard I tried I would never be able to act as stupid as here. She was stupid and kept talking and not getting struck by lighting. I couldn't be as bad as her so what the heck it got easier to talk. I also had to force myself to go over and over about something that was already done. I wouldn't let myself tell myself "I wish I would have said this or that." Stop evaluating how badly I though I sounded. No more evaluations. I don't waste energy worring about thins that were done. no more judging me.
Sorry I wrote so much.
go to a therapist group,seek some help.
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