How do I get my best friend to leave me alone?
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i know excactly what you mean...i tend to just drop people once they start bugging me and after a while i'll start talking to them again...its hard but what you need to do is just explain to him that you are a person who needs to be left alone sometimes, that you need space once in a while if not you get b itchy or whatever it is you feel...after that if he calls you just tell him hey im sorry i really just want to be alone right now...and call him once you feel like talking to him.
punch him in the face.
try avoiding him...or just say ' dude, i just need some space to myself right now...'
change all you phone #'s and lock you doors shut you blinds and live ALL alone. does that sound good to you?
Just try to ignore him and make excusses..Like say "Well i'll see you orund i have to go do something important "
Im like this too
I had a BFF like that before - he just couldn't stand that at times I needed "me time".
What I finally did was just sit and have a talk with him. "I get in moods where I need NO ONE around me for about a week. When I get over it, I'll call you".
That did the trick!
He wants you.. your mean words actually force him to think of other ways to talk to you... so you are making him even more crazy for you..
It's too late,,, he's gonna stalk you... you shoulden't have led him on to begin with. sorry... good luck.
You have to cut him off completly,,, and make a nausious face when ever you see him. turn away...
poor thing,, your gonna crush him.
That's hard. I have a similiar problem. This one girl thinks we're best friends and wants to have sleepovers with me and everything but I really don't like her that much. I don't want to hurt her feelings either.
I have had the same problem. I see that there is an obsession going on...and thats not a good thing..obsession can lead to hate and then hate can lead to something worse..my guy best friend threatened me if he saw me talking to another guy.I think your best friend likes you.usually when girls have a guy best friend it ends up that guy and girl will go out..so try telling your best friend that you need your space and time for yourself as well...good luck
The following is an outline of what a psychologist once told me:
1. Confirm the relationship - Tell them how you feel about them and be sure what their feeling are in the relationship.
2. Discuss the issue - Be sincere with "I" statements. "I feel ______ when ______ "
3. Discuss resolutions - get input from the other person and brainstorm something.
4. Decide on the best option and implement it right away. Confirm implementaiton with "beginning now . .. "
5. Reaffirm the relationship and seal it with a hug"
I wouldn't go to extreme here. Try just telling him that you enjoy his company, but sometimes you just want to be alone. I mean if someone said that to you, you wouldn't be offended would you? You could be just worrying over nothing.
By the way, truth is always better than a lie if you want to continue to be friends.
i do the same thing... i thought i was the only person to do that. i get sick of people so quick.
i would say i would say "hey, we're great friends but i don't do well having people around me 24/7. would you mind backing off for a while?"
if he gets mad say, "it is either back off for now, or forever."
if he gets sad say, "it is nothing personal, i'm just wierd like that. i really need my space"
Basically you are aware that this is a problem, so just think before you talk. Slow down your reaction time. You can still ask for space. If he calls and wants to come over, say no thanks I just need some quiet time right now. If he comes over and wants to hang out, just say not right now, maybe some other time...just put it nicely as you can.
You care enough about him to not want to hurt his feelings, so this would be a good start. I think you get defensive, cause part of you is torn. You like his friendship but you need your space. Trust that asking for it will not make him run away from you completely.
what you need to do is to made up your mind in what ever that will come out,then call him and start to tell him that you loved him and you know that he loved you too,but characters are not the same due to nature made,then that you are no more happy on his own,atleast lets give a little distance to know if we can cope with each other again.
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