Loving yourself?
Is it possible to truly love others if you don't love yourself?
or think about this-
Have you ever known anyone who is constantly putting themselves down and constantly praising you for your superiority in any areas?
I don't know about you, but I get a little annoyed having to constantly boost a person's flagging ego.
I believe that without confidence and comfort in your identity, you can't reach out to others with impact.
Loving yourself is sometimes parallelled with narcissism and arrogance, but isn't it a bit narcissictic to worry about the way you look all of the time?
...What do you think?
Answer:
This is a good question! I'm sure I'll be thinking about it awhile after I've finished typing my response.
Personally, I don't think there's any way you can love another without being able to love yourself, because you wouldn't be able to conceptualize or embody love, but I also think that it's not necessary to love yourself unconditionally to be able to love others unconditionally.
I don't necessarily think there's a correlation between ego and love of one's self. At least, I think one can both love one's self and be critical of one's self or praise others. To see one's self in relation to others doesn't necessarily show lack of love.
Common belief may parallell narcissism and arrogance with love of self, but I think that would be more in line with infatuation with the concept of "self." Generally speaking, I don't think loving one's self could accurately be parallelled with narcissism and arrogance at all.
I see this more as a rhetorical question rather than one to actively answer because of it's self-contained significance. However, I'll venture to answer by saying people have a funny way of expressing their faults for the world to see. They either become self-deprecating, project their own shortcomings by spewing hatred on others, or actively praise other people and never themselves. One can love someone else at the expense of themselves, it happens all the time in society. Doesn't make it necessarily healthy. True love of self emulates positivity so there's no need to go around needing.
i think you're totally right. and i beleive that you cannot TRULY love someone until you love yourself. how can you even know how love feels otherwise? some people may confuse 'love' with infatuation, sympathy, guilt, obsession, lonliness, etc... but love is very different from these things.
I love myself the way I am, I dont like to dress according to the new fashion, i dont like just to follow, I'm proud of what I am, I'm proud of what I do, sometimes I feel I shouldn't have done that or said that, but it's ok, everyone makes mistakes and I should learn from my mistakes instead of falling apart. It's not being narcissistic nor egocentric, it's just confidence. We have to trust ourselves and beleive in what we are, or we will be unable to give love or to trust anyone else.
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