Emotional attachment and love ?

She is emotionally attached to her father More than i thought , that's why this time she left not even letting me know the reason , all the subtle and unconcious fights ... it hurts even thinking about it , but it even hurts more since i let my jealous nature take over and didn't see "what or why was happening " . . her brother and her uncle also wouldn't let her marry anyone she likes . They say they will " kill her " if she does anything like that . i know she is helpless . But i love her . and i want her to know why she was fighting with me so much and creating troubles . i want her to know the real truth behind her actions . because i know she loves me . She has done this before also . But this time - she is really scared what would happen to me if she would have to leave me in the end . . yea it's true . in the end she chose her family over me . But i want her , i love her , so i need her . How would I get her back ? (without implying that point ) ..

Answer:
it sounds like "without implying" would be manipulation. And you are wrong about thinking you know why and what, and even her feelings. YOU NEED TO GIVE HER BREAK. If it was meant to be, she will come back. But if you are having trouble giving her space, respecting her boundaries, and even mentioned "getting jealous" and her being worried about what would happen to you if she left. I have been in abusive relationships, you are headed there buddy. You being the abuser. Maybe you don't know how to love right now. Get yourself help, or you could end up hurting yourself and others. It isn't right. You have all the red flags. LEAVE HER ALONE! GET YOURSELF HELP! Out of concern for yourself. I hope others tell you too that it isn't right.

PS- I am sending this answer with a prayer in my heart that you take this the right way.

Screw her boyfriend!

A woman like that's been indoctrinated for a long time, so the chances of having her snap-to is slim. That's not to say it isn't worth fighting for. But therein lies the question, "Is she worth fighting for?" If you answered a non-hesitant yes then you have to make her understand that as a grown woman who will someday make a family of her own, she has to decide whether or not she'll continue to listen to the influences. Influences that are shaping her destiny (maybe for the worst) or is she going to follow her intuition. I hope you're not a jerk that the men in her life can detect. If so, then leave her alone. But if you are indeed a good guy not getting a fair shake then fight. Fight for your woman.

it sounds dangerous...it wont be easy...try talking to her parents about your feelings..

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