Why do i feel im being prevented from living my life and doing what i want? like emigrating from the uk?

certain people say to me '' you cant do this'' and ''you cant do that'' & i keep thinking when they say that, that the word ' can't' has deeper meaning..deep conotations...i think are they, or people unknown to me, preventing me, saying i can't do what i want? i get really angry when i think deeply about this idea...because ive missed out on life greatly...im a 30 year old borderline personality disorder sufferer, ive suffered alot of abuse, pain, trauma & victimization in my life...& theres gonna be serious problems if people are saying i ' can't' do something.like their preventing me living my life, doing what i want.
i eventually want to move away from britain..emigrate to canada, the u.s or australia..however i have alot to work on in therapy...when people use the word ' can't' im percieve sometimes im being prevented from full filling my ambitions..& if this is the case theres going to be major problems, because them and me are gonna collide, me like an oncoming frait train

Answer:
hey, i want to emigrate from the US to the UK. Maybe we could trade places?!
just tell them that you are independent! that this is you're life! but you should listen to them but also listen to you're self!
Why? Age, that simple.

If you were 67 years old, no one would question you. Kids, teenagers and young adults are always told what to do, and what they "cant" do. There isn't a deeper meaning than that.

Forgive these people, they are only telling you that you "can't" because they are trying to be helpful and prevent you from making possible mistakes.

But if you believe you know what is right for you, then there's nothing you "can't" do. ;)
This is not a problem, the problem would be if something inside you prevented you.
I would suggest australia...

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