What would you do in a situation where powerfull psychological mind games were being perpetrated towards you?
and whenever you raised queries about it occuring towards you, it was turned around against you to make it seem that you were weird, mad or irrational, so it was always thrown back in your face, so it made you even more socially alienated and ostracized.
but as you carried on with your life, you knew it was happening, you felt strong insinuation around you..
i expect people to answer and say im mad or crazy and that i need to see a psychiatrist, but please i ask you to consider this prospect for a moment, if it was happening, and what you would do about it...
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People used to do this to me in junior high when I was more shy and unsure of myself...my mom called it the "gaslight" treatment. People try to mess with you and push you as far as you can because they *can. Then they deny it and make YOU think YOU are the one at fault. It is definitely psychological abuse, but the way to fight it is to NOT fight back. Just agree with what they say. Like if they say something and then act like they never said it, just tell them to get a life and ignore their stupidity. They'll probably try even harder to push you to question yourself, but just roll your eyes and walk away. They are just looking for attention for their lowly selves.
they can only break you if you let them, so if it was me i'd attempt to let it go over my head im leading my life i'll be no ones puppet unless i want to and they are deserving of it xxx
One can never say what they will do until they have been put in that situation!
People are always analyzing one another. I don't worry about it. Define normal.
Get a divorce.
You need to read 1984 by George Orwell. He asks a lot of the same questions in his book. In fact, I also think he'll give you some great answers too. If I were put in the position you describe, I'd resist. Physically, mentally, verbally, psychologically, I'd resist, though it destroys me. I came to that conclusion as I read 1984. I've already thought through your imagined scenario.
Switch off TV and go back to bed.
Being able to recognise it means you have won half the battle.
To win the other half you need to be clear in your own head what you want, what you are prepared to do and what not. Then when they play their mind games you can just shrug it off, smile and carry on with your life as though nothing has happened. Once people find they are not getting a response from you they will give up and pick on someone else.
Play your own mind games by thinking things like, 'up you moron,' when they play their games.
Always smile, because that will annoy them and it will make you feel better.
i am not one of those people calling you crazy; also, i have felt this way before. Nevertheless, I do see the benefits of speaking to a professional. i dont think that going to see a therapist is for crazy people, nor do i think those who use therapy to get better are crazy. so i think that you should go anyways, to help you get over the stress you are under right now.
People are sad. aremt they? people are pathetic amd so petty sometimes. Lets not forget that we might have been as petty as those we accuse of being pathetic too. You try to promote sound judgement when people act.
If they were that powerful you would only know you were being played if the person who was playing you wanted you to know about it. They would only let you know for a reason which aides their game. Look at the bigger picture.
I'd ask her out on a date...
Well said malcolm g. My friend has left her husband because he has been doing this to her for years. He used to make her question her own judgements & sanity. If someone was doing this to me i would run in the opposite direction but i realise through my friends experience that this is very difficult because your self esteem & confidence is at a low eb.Good luck & believe in yourself.
It depends, losing it can have its benefits, if you bludgeon the perpetrator to death, you can claim diminished responsibility from undue mental stress as testing would show this.
Not really a silly question because people do it all the time, especially those like the tit that thought that he and his Muppet Friends could have a laugh and take the mick. I dealt with this situation with great care, after being specific with certain people and what I said, the information eventually got back to the person who was my target and they as expected called me on my phone and 1. Threatened to beat me up, 2. Threatened to "Bomb" my house and 3. Threatened to burn my car out. and I then knew from the barrage of abuse who it was who said to the target the thing that upset them.
I then launched into an offencive and shot the guy down in flames but he hung up.
Luck for me I have a mobile that can record audio and it recorded the conversation, the threats and I saved the file and have stored it on the Internet... I called the person who I knew was flapping their mouth and began to calmly ask what they had said knowing that this person would be with the other person (the target) so they were listening in.
I stated that I had recorded the threats and that the guy has *ucked it for himself, he or any of his friends want to have a go, please do, it will result in the "Conversation" being emailed to the local police with all their details...
Since then (more than 7days) I have not heard a squeak out of anyone or any "Head games" being played.
As soon as you start to turn the tables on these people, they don't like it and often they then crap themselves because suddenly they are not in control... That is a serious threat to them and often one that "Messes" with their heads.
not me...but some other people have this kind of behavior, i saw one, but i was the one make him suffer, because of his actions towards/from the game...
I believe..oh, and by the way you are NOT crazy.trust me, we are not always ALONE.
This is very true..it happens..i think Britney would be a godd example..she just shaved her head and people started saying all stupid things about her..that she is crazy, mad, going to loose it..she may have had a nervous breakdown at that time..but that doesn't mean that she is crazy or something...from what it seems to me all these stupid talks have affected her more..too bad she is a celebrity and can't deal with this alone...wherever she goes people will always be talking about her, about her clothes, about her behaviour...they would keep on calling her "crazy"...it is really sad she can't live her life the way she wants to..just because people are obsessed with her life.
But i think you need to realize that people are doing this to you..and gather up your courage to prove everyone wrong..the day you start behaving nicely with people and start living your life the way you want to,happily..nobody will be able to open their mouth...just be happy that is what counts.
I have spent my life caring about what people say about me...have heard really hurtfull things too..all that nonsense really got to my head..but then one day i decided that it is my life not somebody else's and i am going to live my life the way i want to...eff the people...talking crap is peoples hobby..let them...BUT I AM GOING TO LIVE MY LIFE THE WAY I WANT TO..that is all that matters.
I am so glad you asked this question This situation IS hapenining to me and my family at this very moment exactly as Metoo describes it The place where we are staying has completly treated us badly from day one for reasons only known to the warden the first day we arrived the lady showing us around offered to let us use the resident laundry facilities as our flat had no fitting for a washing machine we offered to pay for it but was told its ok Wow!! what nice people but halfway and in the middle of using the tumbldryer we were told to remove our clothes and that if we had laundry to do my wife who is over 60 must wash it with her feet in the bath and this even before we had met the warden whome on meeting her promptly banned us from speaking to other residence verbally on three seporate ocassions and one of them in the living room of our flat the lame excuse is that a lot of the resident people are suffering from dementure coupled with the fact that we moved to this place from Africa seemed to act as a further reason to leave us alone at first thinking we to a degree could understand as we are afterall strangers and do not know the rules mabee the culture is so different so we isolated ourselves from them and then the complaints started all of the complaints that we recieved from them have been answered by letter from me inviting them to check up but for some reason they refuse to check or even acnowlege our replys so we continued to live like this NOW what to do about it? well we have bypassed the people from our flat complex we do our work pay our rent and taxes joined a jym and quietly cultivated outside interests & in my last complaint reply letter I warned them that if we recieve any more untrue & false complaints that I will follow it up to the very top if nessesary and that we are starting to feel abused and victimised.This is how things stand at the moment but we are living with a deep anger inside of us with an urge to strike back
from bad to worse>springs into my mind
they wind you up
you take the bait
you go ape shi;t
they laugh
end of story
but you keep it up
and ask them about it
they are not going to admit it
because it winds you up again
they can extract a small laugh out of it again
word spreads about
that you are on a defensive trip
others come to see if they can get you excited
it means zero it means they need something to pass
some time because they are bored and also they are boring
laugh it off with them dont make feeble excuses
and sooner or later some other poor sucker will go the same way~ok
powerful mind games~ha ha ha ha
powerful B.O more like
If it was happening to me I would walk away from the people who were doing it or ignore them and not react to it. Sounds like some strange kinda of abuse to me. I had a few people try to play games with over the net. Not as bad as the situation your saying but they tried to make me feel guilty, bad about things, were manipulative, controlling, pushy, trying to force me in to things etc. I just ignored them, stopped talking to them and stopped reacting to the things they were saying.
Seek out the perpetrator and give them a ******* good beating. Take them by suprise and hit them in the back of the head with a hammer.
Time to stop wearing your heart on your sleeve!
I've had this from a number of nasty and highly intelligent rivals. The thing to do is keep calm and ensure you through meditation and the such, build a cold, hard psychic barrier. When you look in a persons eyes blank your mind so that you turn off your emotion but keep your logic fully in control. when you have to answer or react do so mechanically so that it is as cold as possible and do not engague in long term or meaningful conversation. Be very very mechanical and objective about everything.
If asked your opinion about something, someone or yourself simply reply you are OK, they are OK dont give away anything. It will be hard for a while but you will get into it then you will find nothing affects you.
In your next question, which i have read..
You state that you have not, nor have ever had any friends, any kind of relationship, or ever been employed.
Again you flatter yourself assuming people have time, energy or the inclination to wage a psychological war against you!!
If you never deal with, or speak to people, how do you know this?
Maybe if you dragged your selfish *** outside & made an effort with people, perhaps visiting someone worse of than yourself, you might realise people have their own worries
& certainly aren't concerned with waging a war against you!
GREAT QUESTION...An OCTOPUS has many tentacles. On these tentacles, are suckers. Are you playing with the suckers, or the tentacles?
I'd ask my Doctor to increase my medication ! ! !
Are you quiet and keep to yourself? I'm like that and people think there something wrong with me/ try to test me. It's just people being people, always trying to analyze/judge. I feel the same way.. People are always trying to tell me how im like "You're quite" or "You're different"...stfu... If i don't feel like talking to you I won't and if I do I keep it short and sweet. It gets me insecure sometimes though seems like something is wrong with me. The only cure to this is to not let it bother you(this can be hard though)
NICE QUESTION...Octopus and suckers, feature strongly here. Go for the one eye, and beak.
No i don't think your mad it's a valid point. I personally don't take other people's sh** on board and if ever i was in a situation where i felt it was happening i would always see it was something in them and never in me!
What I don't want to hear I won't hear!
What I don't want to see I don't see!
And about people who want to harm me I don't care.
That's a very good defence mechanism.... Who needs 'bad' people? Who needs people who don't believe in you?
Anyway, good question and I don't think that you are mad or crazy! It happens every day and you put it into words!
if they played these games successfully, I wouldn't recognize it and therefore go crazy. if I recognized it, I'd break contact with those people.
If you cannot beat the system... be with the system.
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