Does anyone care i hurt?
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James, I'm going to give you a different take on this. I can honestly say I've had thoughts like that, long ago.
Someone out there does care. I mean "friends or family" care. It may just be a matter of going to them and saying "I hurt, and here is why." (I'm paraphrasing, find your best way to say it) They may not know, or may already know but think you don't want them to get involved. It's amazing how many people hold back because they don't think it is their place. It's doubly amazing how many solutions there are if people just friggin talk!
So speak up! Try this for a starter. Go grab your best friend, and say "hey, I need to talk to you about something. Let's grab a bite, I'll pay." Then after you've eaten (people are more relaxed after a full belly), spill out your feelings! Heck, you may find out they've just been waiting for you to say something, and know they can jump in and help.
However, what I say next is the MOST important part. Whatever they say about you, whatever critique or compliment they give you, ACCEPT IT. It doesn't matter whether you agree with them or not. Likely they will have a different opinion, because they don't know what's going on in your head. That doesn't matter. The fact that they will talk to you about it, even if you think they are wrong, is proof that they care. But talk about it!
As for those dark thoughts, about "don't want to go on," there is some good news. You're a human being, which means, at a instinctual level, you are a social creature. The fact that it matters to you that someone should care that you hurt just verifies it. Find the proof that someone cares, and those thoughts should go away very quickly.
get help
Yes, people care you hurt, but you don't have to be a little girl about it. The only people who commit suicide are those cowards who can't deal with bad situations. So, suck it up, and make your life better, because you can't always count on other people to make life better for you.
Yes,
I care, and I say although life sometimes seems hard and unfair, you have much to live for. If you need someone to talk to email me or call 1-800- 784-2433 and remember, you're not alone!
Goodluck=
Jessica
james, yes i care! i worry about everyone, i m a mother with a big heart. life will get better! sometimes things are bad and seem to get worse but tomorrow is always a new day
cheer up OK!!
I guess that I do. I know how you feel, trust me. But, life is filled with hurt and suffering. I would do something to help you if I could.
E-mail me if you need someone to talk to.
James, I'm assuming from your avatar that you might be in your teens, yes? 20s? Doesn't matter, really. If so, this period sucks for a lot of folks--many changes--questions about self, etc. I had it fierce, too. It might be the regular blues or depression. If it lasts a long time (over 2 weeks) GET HELP (family doctor, counselor). Trust me, it can get better.
PS Get ahold of any books about artists, celebrities, etc. who have suffered from depression--you'd be amazed at how many have had it and overcome it only to achieve great success. Shalom.
In the mean time, surround yourself with good friends, dump the useless ones, don't drink, smoke, or snort it away, because it will only get worse. And for Christ's sake, no jumping in front of cars, hitting yourself over the head with heavy packages of bacon, or sit in front of computer games all day. Look in the mirror, cry if you have to, hold your head up.and take the first step to gaining control.
At one time or another we have all felt the way that you are feeling. That's not to say that your pain is the same as anyone Else's pain , but most people at one time or another have felt like they didn't want to continue.....But hey James B. you need to hang in there and try as hard as you can to get through whatever is aching you . I care that you hurt . I believe that you are hurting . What ever the problem is you can deal with it , don't give into it. Life is full of good days and full of bad days, we all have them. You , for all of your pain , are no different from the rest of us. Don't cave in James B. we need you. I wish that I could take your pain away , I can't but know that nothing last forever, including your sorrow . Yes , I do care.
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