Rape? Over-reacting? What do you think?
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you shouldn't blame yourself AT ALL, he had no right to do that to you! report the crime! you're the victim here, and you did nothing wrong. good luck!
Just because this person is well respected doesnt mean you shouldnt be!!
Report it! If you dont it may happen to someone else.
No is NO and Stop is stop-rape is rape is rape!
Dont be a victim and dont be scared to tell SOMEONE!
That is not your falat at all that guy is a complete *** hole and why didnt someone who heard come stop him? you need to talk to someone about this and call the police on him I know it is hard and I know it suck but that is the only way you will be safe and it isnt your falat you should go to the hopital though and get an std cheak and a pregancy test ( at the hospital they can tell really early on . please try to feel better and please if you want press charges( I know it will be hard but you could save another girl from going through this) at leastt do go to the doctors (
That is bullshit!! you are not to blame and whoever knew this was happening to you are pigs! Who told you you had sex for 30 minutes why didn't they stop him. Prosecute that piece of crap! Find a website for victims of rape and they will tell you where to go and what to do.
Tell someone or you will just be messed up for life. Who cares about his rep did he care about yours? Please don't ever blame your self for something like this. Women should be able to walk down the street naked & not be bothered by men but that is not reality of course but you get my point right. Do something about it so many women go through life unspoken & unheard
first of all it is not all your fault.
you are NOT over-reacting.
don't do outlandish things, dont explode in anger because that makes your story less credible.
im sorry i cannot help you, i havent been in this situation..
but i am SO sorry.
i will keep you in my prayers
Respect yourself. He clearly violated you. YOU SAID "NO" AND "STOP". He acted in an illegal manner and should be reported immediately before he does it to someone else. Well respected or not, he did something wrong to you and you should say something, especially if this wasn't the first time. It was rape and nothing less. You have my support and i hope the guy gets what he deserves.
Report to the police that you believe that while you were intoxicated some one had forced themself on you. Do not lie about anything and do not leave anything out. It does not matter if you were intoxicated you told him to stop and therefore he should have stopped. I do believe that is still rape. You need to tell some one and do it soon.
Yes, you can blame yourself for getting too drunk--but you can blame HIM for rape--and for the last time, attempted rape.
Now the people who were there and know ARE WITNESSES. Let these people know that everything was against your will--someone must have heard you telling him to stop--maybe more, if you were in pain.
DON'T let this slide--or it will happen again--to you, and to others.
My daughter let it slide once--then it happened much more brutally the next time--now that guy is going to spend the next year in prison--and he deserves to--he was warned the last time.
Stop blaming yourself--and get to a police station and make a report--then, you can make a case against him--in the meantime, after you have a police report--get a restraining order--don't let him get away with this--then his friends will think that they will get away with it too.
I'm really serious--him and others will do this again if you don't take action now!
Not your fault. Report this to the authorities. Don't let that guy get away with this heinous violation. Your trusted your friends and they betrayed you, that is totally unacceptable. Respect is earned and the rapist has lost whatever respect he had in the past. Do not be afraid and do not submit to terror or peer pressure.
bulll fukcin sh!!t!!!!! Go to the cops today!!!GO to the HOSPITAL RIGHT NOW & tell them that you were DATE RAPED,ask them to take your blood test & anything they find HE PUT THERE!he tried before??? how many other girls has he slipped a mickey to?yeah that's what happened!!! I KNOW IN MY GUT THAT YOU R NOT THE FIRST!! YOU WON"T BE THE LAST & all the other girls thought the same way including 2 girls you know.He likes to specialize in so called "sluts" becuase they are beneath him & usually won't tell due to thier own"reputation".please believe me! no matter if you took a shower already there is still evidence PLEASE The victims might stay the same age as he gets older,yuk!!
Now I'm crying...I was in your position in high school. It was not your fault he violated, took advantage of, and raped you. You need to report it. It is a terrible thing that was done to you and wasnt your fault. I know how you feel that you shouldn't have done this or that, but the fact is you cant get raped on your own because then it is concentual and not rape. You told him to stop but he continued = rape.
In my freshman year of high school I had many ups and downs. I went into the woods with a guy everyone knew but I was just getting to know. I was upset and wanted a cigarette after school. During school I had smoked a little pot for the first and only time-- so I too was a little disoriented. My ex was "friends"(or so I thought with him). I went back there and he started picking me up acting like he was going to throw me in this ravine. I started laughing and said stop- because he was messing around...
.but then when he put me down..He pulled me close and kissed me, i was upset so didnt say anything at first.then he pulled me on the ground and I told him to stop and I tried to back away but he pulled me tighter...he kept rubbing up against me and the more I fought and tried to break free (and get him to break his hold of having his arms locked around and against my body ) the harder he pressed up against me and wrapped his arms around me... At one point he took my shirt off ...I started crying.and I somehow managed to break free after 2-3 hours.......
....at school when people found out they called me a sl*t too especially HIM...
......to this day I still feel guilty and like it was my fault...but my (then ex) now fiance tells me it wasnt my fault I said no and he kept going . I told they guy I was disoriented and he still intiated it and tried to over power me...It doesnt matter who does it or under what circumstances if you say NO it means No and if they force it is still rape...my fiance beat the crap out of him many times and everytime he sees him he gets into a fight with him.....
..At first I thought about it everyday I would have nightmares and then as time passed I didnt think about it so much ...its been 4 years now I still feel guilty sometimes but now its more regret... because i never filed a report with the police and he may have had the chance to do it to someone else... you will get through it .its normal to feel this way..i suggest seeing a counselor only because i didnt seek help and i still have problems because of it but maybeit will help you!!but it wasnt your fault it was his ...i hope you get through this if you ever need to talk...
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First of all this is not your fault. It may seem that way because you had one too many, but in reality you were not the one to blame. The reason it's called consensual sex is because it's when two consenting adults decide to have sex, not when one feels like it and the over one can't make a decision for them-self because they were too intoxicated. You need to do something about this. You didn't want any of this in the first place and the fact that he forced himself onto you and had sex with you after you told him to stop is rape. It's rape and he can't get away with that. No matter how cool he is or how much other people like him, people do stupid things and to not report it or to stand up for it is saying that rape is ok and that it doesn't matter. Wherein fact it is important because this is something that does happen and should be stopped. No matter what other people tell you or say it is not your fault not one bit. I urge you to call a friend or talk to someone about this as well as report this. You shouldn't have to live alone with this hurting you on the inside and you can help yourself and other people from having it happen to them if you do something. No one has the right to rape you or anyone else for that matter.
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