Growing up with a controlling family?
Anyway, it would get nauseating at times ("Now now, don't do that, don't say that, don't think like that, be a good boy" ect...like they were trying to make me a character in "Leave it to Beaver"). I liked listening to music groups like "Slayer" at 15 and play "evil" Dungeons and Dragons; my family would have a fit and they tried to take away these things. I wanted to take up karate and they blocked that (I learned anyway, my best friend studied under a student of Chuck Norris in the early 80's, and he would teach me).
How does a person deal with growing up in a family that believed in suppressing normal feelings and behavior?
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i will be honest...but it will seem harsh...you just have to let it go...let them go...and move on...move away...do whatever you have to do to be able to accept yourself...the constant barrage of suppression will only control you into your adult life and you have to let that go...and i would imagine you are still getting it to some extent now...personally i had to decide to say goodbye to my mother...she decided to tell the family how horrible i was (even though the way i did it was quite polite and i didn't blame anyone and i wished her whatever she deserved in life) so the entire family divorced me...i have no contact with anyone in my family except my sister and sister in law and my life is better for that...you just have to look at what is going on now and if they are still doing it you have to make it stop somehow...
try talking to your parents about it. explain to them nicely that you are not what they want you to be.
if that didnt help maybe you can move out to your own place.
i think that every person will deal in his own way
some will act like their family wants and will be happy about that
some will do but inside they'll be angry and that anger isn't good and could cause problems and their future
and some ppl will fight that and will have many troubles growing up but @ the end it depend on how theirfamily going to react against that
i don't there is a right or bad way to deal with that but i think that every one should tell his parents about all this and be honst about it
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