Seriously depressed?
I have 2 children and one of those cant go to school as they have no place for her where my son is.It has to be this school she go's to as it's literally on the doorstep and I can manage that distance.
I feel everyone has given up on me.
I know i have something wrong with me as I feel dizzy all the time and the psychiatrists were ment to be helping me sort out my needle phobia ( as i need blood tests to find out what is wrong with me)..but because I'm unable to get to the clinic to recieve this help they won't deal with me,
Is this what the mental health services have come to?
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I know you are depressed hun, I suffer from depression too. There is only one way you can over come this, stop being a victim of depression, use it to your advantage. Don't think about it focus on what is important like your children.
The only way I got over my depression was through a hard way, after a failed attept suicide. After that I realised that I cannot let this illness rule my life. I got out of bed seeked help, went to College and now in a second year at uni studying social science.
Please hun for the sake of the children, just focus on them and less on how you are feeling, you never know it might help.
Well, with the mental health services, I lost faith in them long ago, as I never got any help from them. I only went to see a counsellor twince and I was signed off after that. I wasn't near getting better and that when I attempted comitting suicide, as I felt there was no help left for me out there.
Come on girl pull yourself together for those kids!!
They can't or won't help. I know i get depresed, even Stephen Fry has said he suffers from it. If someone can help you maybe they can help me.
Don't blame the system so much. You're the one that's fucked up. If people are offering help and you can't overcome your fears for long enough for them to help you, then you don't deserve the help. You have to meet them half way. What do you expect them to do? Come to you in your sleep and take blood? Grow up.
Being a kid and seeing my mom like depressed. Its not fun. When shes sad, im sad too. Just try as hard as possible to stick it out for them your there everything. And remember it cant rain forever.
I had similar symptoms and PAROXETONE has helped enormously. Phone your doctor and insist on medication so that you can attend the clinic. Do it now before it gets any worse.
try to stop thinking so much, empty your head. dont think about anything just let it rest, let yourself feel calm. Only concentrate on calm, your too worked up. the other things will come its not for you to worry about your body will sort it out.
pick up one case about depreesion. Try to turn it into a positive engergy. Gradually it might help you ease the negative engergy.
Depression is a pig. A lot of people cant understand that sufferers dont CHOOSE to be depressed and that it just happens!
Bit like a black cloud that comes over and wont go away
My personal method (not sure if it'll work for you) is to accept that I'm feeling down, know that it will pass (eventually) and be very carefull not to FORCE myself to be happy. If I force myself then the higher highs mean lowere lows which causes propper oversteering
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no...just psychiatrists...one thing...it is kind of radical and people don't often like to do it...is to call the local child welfare people...i work for DCFS and we have what are called Child Welfare Service cases...these case are people who call in for help for themselves and their family...there are not any abuse or neglect, yet...but the family is struggling and they need help...i come out assess the need for services and get people involved who can assist you and your family...it is better than having the school call because you are not allowing your child to go to school...and there are homemakers etc who come to the home and can actually help you...we even have a couple of counselors who come to the home of the client to further their treatment...if you need more information please email...i would be happy to help...it is not hopeless...and you should not give up...there is help out there for you...especially as you want the help
you sound like you want a kick up the backside and get a bloody grip hun,i spent a long time with a madman who broke my arm and stuff ,i got depressed and realy ill,but i got off my **** and rebuilt my life,i think you need stop looking out the window and get a grip ,its all in the mind ,be strong stop your antidepress pills and start your life again,what about your children ,do they want a mental mum/? now its time 2 get up stand up and be strong nothing is easy but strength is withing and every person has it
i really feel sorry for you as a while back i to had your problem and felt the whole world was against me and nearly give up the will to live but like you i have children what i did was change my life i went out more met new friends and made it so that i had something to look forward to day by day.Depression is not a disease its how your life is please change it.
I gave this answer to this same question last week I am sure it could help
You will be the same again believe me. but it will take varying time to rid depending how you cope with it. the pit seems to get deeper every day and your feeling is impossible to describe to anyone. the best way is to be inwardly determined to break the cycle and fight your own mind not to think depression.
I have been there
Hello,
(ANS) I understand just how difficult and serious agoraphobia can be as my mum's mother had it (my grandmother).
The problem as I see it, is that its a sort of catch22 type situation. Meaning? that the more you stay inside the more you will feel depressed. I call this cabin fever, you get sick of seeing the same x4 walls and living the same boring predictable routine, yet you know that this routine & being at home are safe for you. The home & your routine provide a safe holding space for you. But whilst it feels safe its part of the cause of the depression too at the same time.
**NOTE: mental health services are dreadfully under funded and dreadfully stretched by so many people in need to local mental health services, I know this is no comfort too yourself.
**Have you tried to make contact your local branch of the mental healthy organization M.I.N.D ( I think they have changed their name to SANE now) but I found them very good, very supportive, they can put you in touch with other services and help. You will find them in the phone book or I know they do have a website too and a quick Yahoo or google search should find them if your interested to follow that up?
**You could do with either a C.P.N or a weekly counselor who would be prepared to come & provide weekly sessions in your own home. There must be such a service in your situation. I think you probably need to mixture of talking therapy or counseling to help support you through the depression and suicidal feelings and secondly, medical help to investigate whether you do have something medically wrong that might be making the situation worse. So you probably need a home visit from a GP as well, could you phone your GP and request a home visit? would that be an option?
**I have little faith that a psychiatrist you help you anyway, they are only interested in people who they think have personality disorders, NOT mental healthy problems that can be helped via talking therapies. Psychiatrist's tend to view the problem/s from a medical view point & hence like to give drugs to deal with the problem which is often not that appropriate, because talking therapies would be more beneficial in the long term.
Kind Regards Ivan
No... You're just afraid to face reality. If not for you, Do it for your Children. You're all they have.
Try meditation, you don't need to leave the house to learn it. You can clear your mind and feel happy wherever you are, indoors or out.
Disregard some of the more hostile answers here, they simply do not understand what true mental health problems can be like. Jst because your problems are less visible than say, someone who has cancer, or who is in a wheelchair, doesn't make them less valid.
I don't hear anyone telling disabled people, 'hey come - on, pull yourself together and get out of that wheelchair', - so they should not tell you to 'pull yourself together.'
All I can say is you have a terrible psychiatric team and you should write a letter of complaint to your local health authority and ask to see another psychiatrist.
Your problems are multi-faceted and very REAL. My way of thinking about overcoming any phobia is that it is like building a house. - The best way is slowly, slowly and one small brick at a time. I know it is ooh so difficult for you to face going out, so you need to break this ordeal dow into small, manageable steps. - As a start, just stand by your own front or back door and watch the outside world. Eventually, this ordeal will cease to be so and you will get used to doing it. When you are used to this, then extend the distance which you place yourself from you house by one step. - Again, wait until this becomes normal. It may take several weeks or months, but you will get there.
It sounds to me that some cognitive behavioural therapy would do you good. If you have a diagnosis of agrophobia, then they should be able to arrange home visits. They will teach you coping strategies, which you can use to overcome the depression.
Remember: - thoughts are not facts, even when they tell you they are. challenge your negative thinking and try to identify what causes it. Understanding your problems and identifying the cause is halfway to curing them.
In terms of help, the best place to start is your family doctor. - But remember, if you don't agree with what they say, you can ask to see someone else. Good luck.
I hope this helps; - I know how difficult it is.
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Surely you could have a home visit, they have community mental health nurses that visit. I would ask them to send a nurse around. x
Vicky is right . get up stand up.
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