Why do i always fall controlling men?
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Could be one of many reasons. Often controlling men offer some sense of security, or safety, or at the very least, some sort of "stability". Controlling men do not change. They will always be controlling, it is something you can count on them being controlling. Its something about them that will never change, and in away, that is stability. The safety and a sense of security come from the fact that they are controlling. It offers an umbrella of protection. You are less likely to do something harmful, if your actions are limited, and the home is generally considered a secure and safe place. Many controlling men limit their spouse from leaving the house.
Controlling men are also very self confidant, and that is a big attraction to women, confidence! They can come on appearing charming, caring, and protective. And again, that can be very attractive.
A question this brings up for me is, do you enjoy it? Some women do, some women are submissive and that is OK. Controlling is not bad if you want it to be that way. There is a difference between controlling, and abusive.
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You don't trust your own judegement. YOur insecure. You seek someone you think is alfa, there is a huge differnce between a dominante male and an alfa male.
Your men are not afraid to try to control you because they are physically stronger than you and they can control you. Say if they cannot control you fully in your own home, because they have not got the key and they have to leave at some stage and if they are bullyiing, then you won't let them back in, then they will be nice to you till they get you into their car and go into the country where they don't stop at stop signs and red lights and you can't jump out. This is when their true nature is turned on all the time. They decide when you are allowed out of the car to have a wee, to eat, to speak to others, to buy a magazine. They decide whether the windows are open or shut and what speed they go and when to return to the city. They are in their element. Euphoric they have a puppet to control. They will make social arrangements to go out with you when you get back. If you seem reluctant they will drive around controlling you till you agree with a smile on your face. Then when you get back to the safety of your own home and locked inside, you can tell them on the phone that you are not going to see them any more and they will say WHAT ABOUT THE SOCIAL ARRANGEMENT WE MADE and you say you have changed your mind. Don't say that you agreed under duress because you will make it bad for the next woman, cos for her he will make her swear on the Bible. A good thing to do is have lots of men friends, so a boyfriend knows if he tries something bullying, there is a possibility that these men will assist you. These men friends can be your girlfriends' husbands, neighbours, tradesmen, rellies, and always good to have a couple of policemen to use your place as a pitstop. You can tell them where the key is and always have a tin full of do-nuts for them. The worst thing is, is when one of these men friends turn into a bully. Never go on a holiday with a man without having an escape route planned. Find out where you can go in an emergency in the tourist town/caravan park/ near the motel. Get the bus/train timetables and hide money in a condom in a body crevice that he doesn't have access to. Because when you are in the shower he will go through your wallet and stuff for sure, to see what your resources are. Be prepared to leave your luggage behind when you flee, so don't take your Yves St Laurent bags and designer clothes, because you may never get it back. Insist your luggage is put on the back seat of the car and not in the trunk, and then you can possibly grab it when you have an opportunity to run, especially if there are witnesses. It is hit and miss whether you get a controlling boyfriend or not. If he has a controlling mother or boss, he may take it out on you, cos you are the only thing in his life he can control apart from his bowels. But then sometimes a controlling business owner can't tell you from his staff, so he will try to control you too. Good luck. It's either this or join a nunnery, but then those nuns are pretty controlling too.
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you like s and m clearly.Also perhaps related to unresolved issues from childhood
don't try to controll & u will be in full control.. thats the trick.
applying newtons third law of motion.
the reason is either u must be perfect and aware of everything or must know nothing a sort of interior domination.
GOD be with u, plz keep up ur confidence by taking up a job n if there r children, try to find strategies to coexist. an abusive person cannot change but u can mould urself by taking up ur fav. hobbies n trying meditation coupled with yoga. do not blame yourself, u r innocent,only u can find ways to fight ur crosses.
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