My life is messed up and i need a little..okay a lot of advice!?
I want to meet my online friend because i love him and we wanted to mee this summer. But im sort of chubby (not fat or anything) but i have extra stuff going on. I want to loose weight and he wants to come and meet me but Im afraid he'll think IM unattractive. :( Im trying to loose weight as soon as I can but its hard. What do you think?
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High school can be rough. I have heard all that baloney about these are the best years of your life, you know, but that's not true for everyone...for some people the high school years are the hardest.
It is difficult not having friends. We need people in our lives...face it, we just need people. Try to make some new friends.
Remember to love yourself. Love who you are...believe in who you are...be good to yourself. Be your own friend, in that way; then other people will probably want to be your friend too.
I have a solution for your online friend too...send him some pics by email that flatter you.you know, a good camera angle, good lighting...show him pictures that flatter you. This takes the pressure off meeting him because he already has in image in his head, you know.
I have tips for losing weight too: eat healthy foods, regularly, and start walking every day.
But you know what? You don't HAVE to lose weight to be loved. Lots of guys go for big girls.even really fat girls. There are lots of guys who will take you as you are right now, so don't feel pressured to be a skinny minny!
Becareful with the online "friends" they might hurt u more than u know. As for the ex friends maybe you should hang with a new crowd and leave those behind. Join a sport or club. get a job. Just be active and then u solve 2 probs. (chubby and no friends)
I used to be somewhat like that. You need to change your attitude completely. Continuing to think like this will not get you ANYWHERE. You need to lighten up, realize that not everyone is out to get you, and try not to think too much about what someone else thinks about you when you're trying to make friends.
Meeting someone you meet online is NOT usually a good idea, but if you insist on it, make sure people know where you're going and meet in a public place. Wear flattering clothes (nothing skintight) and only lose weight the healthy way. Don't do anything drastic to get someone to like you.
i think you need a hobby... like playing sports, unless you're too good that. =*(
First of all, high school sucks for everyone. Go get your friends back and don't be afraid to speak up. You need to learn to love yourself. That is so important. You're looking to your "friends" and whoever this guy is to love you. You need to work on your self esteem. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do anything or that you are worthless because you are "chubby". ESPECIALLY YOURSELF. If you keep waiting to be the "perfect size" you will miss out on so many things. If you are depressed you need to speak with a counselor, especially if you have "extra stuff" going on. Also be super careful about meeting anybody online. Make sure you meet in a public place and do not go alone! You are worth it to be safe and take care of yourself!
You can make other friends other than the little group you know. If you feel uncomfortable introducing yourself, try a school club. Friends come and go in life. Keeping a friend means that it is a two way relationship, they have to give and you have to give.
As for your online friend. Please be careful meeting someone online. You truly do not know what that person is like and must be very cautious. If you are under 18, please discuss this with your parents.
Losing weight is probably more difficult than the friend problem. Find out what your height and age calorie count is suppose to be and follow it. You feel like you are starving and the cravings are terrible. Talk to your doctor to see what they can suggest.
Good luck.
I use this everytime I'm down
"If I can endure for this minute whatever is happening to me
No matter how heavy my heart is or how dark the moment might be...
If I can but keep on believing what I know in my heart to be true,
That darkness will fade with morning and that this will pass away, too...
Then nothing can ever disturb me or fill me with uncertain fear,
For as sure as night brings dawning, my morning is bound to appear..."
GOOD LUCK
First of all, in order to have friends, you need to "be one"!! Sometimes you need to look within yourself to find the most inner part of you to see what's going on. Perhaps your friend is not taking them away, but is more pleasant to be around then you are at this time. Calling your friend and having a nice friendly chat and laughing about some good times might change that situation.
Then arrange a meeting at a local mall with all of your friends, and just forget about what bothers you about each one of them, and just have a good time for laughs. If you really live like today is your last day, it all really don't matter. Peer pressure sucks, but everyone has little quirks we don't like, it's what makes us all individuals and unique.
Good Luck!
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