How do I tell him how much he hurt me?

I was with a guy for 4 yrs.. sure we had our differences buy we love one another. He had a drinking problem and it got ugly one night i told him we needed a break. He did not have famil here so we remained friends. Talked about working on our relationship. He finally went and got help and I fell in love with him all over again. We got together had dinners talked and yes..made love. this was over an 8 month period. I went to his appartment monday to surprize him and make him dinner (he told me how busy at work he has been). I walked in and found a womans bra and clothes on his bed and condom rappers. 2days prior he was with me. 2 weeks prior he asked to borrow money and aske If I could pay for his prescription. June 28th was his birthday and he told me he wanted to go home(his family is 6 hrs away) and just wanted to sopend it with his family. I also found in his apartment pictures of him at home with this girl he is sleeping with dated for 6/28 his birthday. how do I cope?

Answer:
The best way to let him know is to get over him and move on. Simply telling him will not leave an impression on him at all. In fact it would only give him reason to disresepect you more. However, if you get on with your life this shows him that you don't need him and will make him realize that he ruined the best thing that ever happened to him. Every argument can be won in silence.

I don't think there is much point telling him how much he hurt you. He is probably not going to fall to his knees and beg for forgiveness.

I don't know if he was using you for sex, but it sure sounds like he was using you for money. He may also be using you to support his drinking problem.

This is not good for you, and it isn't good for him. I think it would be healthier for you to move on, find new things you enjoy, new friends, etc.

That guy is an ***. So all you have to do is take it slow. Just lay low for a while and enjoy the single life. Go out with girlfriends and stuff

peace!

Nickipettis hit the nail on the head. I agree.

this man is selfish. he is not worth ur time. for ur best, tell him what he did, and keep moving never go back to him. u have to tell him how much he hurt u, so that u will have closer. let it out, tell him everything. then say good bye and never turn to him again.
sorry, to hear that, it a shame how so many people are so selfish and dont care about others feelings. i know it hurts. at least now u know, sooner rather than later. move on, u can do better.

You don't need to tell him how much you are hurt just get out now and I know it will be hard for a long time but there is better guys out there and he is not one of them at least you weren't married with kids when you found out.

Sounds like you have two choices. You could -

1 - Stay with him. If you do this, he will continue to lie to you, cheat on you, and cost you money. He has no reason to change this behavior, since he is obviously benefiting from it. He has you, and whoever else he manages to hook up with.

2 - Break up with him. This will hurt, but at least it will end his opportunities to continue to pile up one hurt after another.

There really aren't any other options. The notion that someone can reform someone else has been around for a long time, but I've never seen it work. If he's going to reform, it's going to be because HE wants to.

Also, try this site.
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/m...

Hope this helps!

You don't tell him. Words are cheap. You show him by completely eradicating him from your life. This guy is a mess and needs to work his problems out on his own. Get rid of any evidence of him from your apartment, car, workplace, etc. Put all his stuff in a box and mail it to him. Don't take his calls or his emails. This guy is toxic and you don't need to be wrapped up in his bullsh*t. Get out now while you still can.

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