Keeping self-confidence up?
I always want to look great. Anyday that I don't spend time putting on makeup, I feel ugly. Anytime I feel like I haven't done a stellar job on an assignment, I feel like a complete & utter failure. If I happen to say something illogical, I'm completely down on myself for being a complete idiot. I really can't handle all the pressure I put on myself.
So, as you can imagine, in my head, I have way more bad days than good days. It's upsetting & downright stupid to feel bad about myself for not being perfect but I just can't help it.
What do you guys recommend for a perfectionist like me to keep my self-confidence up?
Answer:
Trying to be perfect in an imperfect world, as you obviously have found, is only setting yourself up to fail. You have all of the causes and consequences nailed down, so now it is just a matter of applying what you already know. If, in fact, you are sweet, smart, loyal, pretty & thoughtful, then you are far ahead of most of the rest of the world population. Attempting to be a perfectionist is itself a character flaw. So, it is a matter of choice. You can choose to be unhappy and dissatisfied, or you can start enjoying life.
It sounds to me like you really are due for a reality check. Take a trip to a Veterans Hospital. Walk the halls for a couple of hours. See what the men and women there have to work with, check out the attitudes, and the obstacles these people start out every day with. Then tell me how much pressure you put on yourself at the start of your day. And tell me what failure is. Good Luck, and enjoy the life you have. Don't waste time being stupid. Sounds like you are actually an alright person with a little too much time on your hands. Enjoy your life, there are way too many that don't have the choices you have.
You sound like a Virgo, are you one?
For your topic, self confidence? Well, try doing breathing exercises and think that... Oh, it's really great, i wonder if others would do better than i did? Oh, I've really tried my best
That was the best answer i can get for you, hope that it helps you..
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