People who are psychologically unbalanced-should they be allowed to have kids if they refuse counselling?
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Does`psychologically unbalanced include being remote and unavailable because they are too busy having a business and living the high life?
Does it include hyper critical parents who give children unceasing challenges and withhold praise in an attempt to make them better than the next kid
does it include the pushy sport or dance parent ? those too scared of stranger danger hype to let their children play normally outside, those who indulge their children's demands for material goods at the expense of values? Those who instill racist attitudes?
what about people with disabilities whose disability would impact on the quality of life of the child?
or do you just mean a specific type of psychological damage, found in lower income families, where poverty and stress are a continual burden.
People are always "allowed" to have kids, its part of the human rights act to which this country subscribes ("right to a family life")
What counts is what we do to help people likely to have difficulties in giving their kids a happy life all the assistance we can.
Yes , it's a matter of opinion as what you class as unbalanced,some of the most stable people in the world have caused damage to there kids by been selfish and self absorbed, although this is not classed as an illness !! :)
I don't think they should be able to have kids period. But that would be unconstitutional so there is nothing we can do about it. PLENTY of people should NOT be having kids. And I believe that along with the vaccinations that kids have to get before enrolling in high school, birth control should be mandatory - the male pill should be coming out soon, so it could be mandatory for both sexes.
I don't think it safe to go down the route you are suggesting, where would you stop, alcoholics, drug abusers,prostitutes, you would be playing god, I believe initially Hitler started off with the same idea!
Yes, because your saying they have the potential and are probably going to do it they could just as well not and the child can potentially adapt and come out of the home stronger. It isn't the ideal situation and I think most would agree the unbalanced person should get help but you cannot dictate how a person can reproduce based on what they 'might' do even if your statistics show they are at a higher risk etc.
Plenty of people would go through your screening and pass but make horrible parents because they are able to hide their flaws better.
Your premise also adds the idea that other people will start choosing who can have children, what's the alternative to that? Do the unfit get sterilized, do you take their kids, those questions have to be resolved. When will 'those people' deciding who can and can't have kids decide that only people who are married can have children, or only Christians can?
EDIT: Then who decides what 'good parenting' is and what the course you want to teach potential parents is all about? What happens when people fail or don't get a 'passing' mark do they get to take it over, so it is a pointless test, or are there consequences to not parenting how 'they are supposed to'?
The idea is good to teach people to be good parents but I don't think it will really matter one day at a 'class' isn't going to change their own views and faults when they spend years raising their kids.
There should be a test for people who wish to procreate. We have tests to be able to drive, thus isn't it more important that a person that is to be responsible for a human life and it's actions should have to be of a certain level or higher?
That's a hard one to answer. My first thought was no, they shouldn't. Having grown up with a parent who we (my siblings and I) strongly suspect has a personality disorder, I know first-hand what can happen when a person is forced to grow up under the control of a psychologically unbalanced parent. Parents like this can do extreme harm to their children.
On the other hand, if my parents had been forbidden to have children due to my one parent's problems, my brothers and I wouldn't be here today. And personally, I'm rather fond of living, even though it means overcoming a lot of obstacles from my childhood that wouldn't have been there if my parent had been a healthier person. So..I'm not really sure there's a good answer to that question.
No. People should be made to do a course in all aspects of basic developmental psychology as part of a pre-natal educational package ...
What did your parents ever do to you he?
a lot of psychologically unbalanced people become ill after having their children its not automatic that you get ill before starting a family so what is your suggestion for all of those unfortunate familys.
NO!
how would YOU define "psychologically unbalanced" and how would I do it would probably differ quite a lot ... and we're all a bit "unbalanced" from time to time ... so why do you think anyone has any right to make decisions who should and who shouldn't have one of the most fundamental human rights? And not all "psychologically unbalanced" people make bad parents ... but that's besides the point ... if a child is being ill treated, it should be given a new home ...
So your saying if a person suffers mild depression they don't have a right to children? Come on even people who are completely "balanced"can psychologically harm their kids. I know that I have hurt their feelings now and again. I think your unbalanced to think people don't have a right to kids just because they have minor problems. Now if they are abusive then no kids if they have severe mental disabilities then no way should they have kids but people with minor problems have a right that you can't infringe on.
As somebody who is psychologically unbalanced (not "in a dangerous way") with a two-and-a-half year old kid, I feel that if it were to be regulated in any way, it would have to be case-by-case. As far as causing my son psychological harm, well, he seems to be doing well so far :)
I DO refuse counseling, but not medication. And I'm doing a lot better on medication (antidepressants). If I were to judge my own case (biased as I am) I would say it's fine, especially considering the fact that life is not perfect and hardship is simply a part of everyone's life.
Besides, if the government were to attempt to institute some sort of regulatory program to ban or allow specific people to procreate, not to put too fine a point on it, it would get ugly.
Now as far as psychologically ABUSIVE people, it really would be nice to be able to prevent them from raising children pending psychiatric counselling, but I think America, or any current society for that matter, is a long way off from that kind of social regulation.
There are those among us who feel that there is no-one who is really qualified to make such a decision on behalf of others. Let us imagine that there is a mentally challenged couple who are no threat to themselves or society but are unable to manage without state/peer/parental assistance who want to have a relationship and who are physically able to have children.
WHO do you think has the right to deny them the fulfilment that they can get from such a relationship? Who are we to deny them the unique joy of parenthood? And how will their possibly genius children regard their parents, or indeed the society that supported them?
The short answer is that unless they are breaking the law they have the right to determine their own futures, and to refuse counselling too.
We are all equal and to deny another equality is to be tyrannical. At what point do we outlaw the petty tyrant?
I remind you that democracy is defined as being one man(woman) one vote, and government by the people for the people.
One day we may even approach that much vaunted ideal worldwide!
Meantime i plead for you ALL to love your neighbour as yourself. Remember your brother's and sister's are alive throughout the global village that we are fast becoming.
Including this hypothetical couple!
no they should nt but that covers alot of eople as th human brain is so fragile
You can talk this to death but it would be against their civil rights. Even Down's Syndrome people marry as do little people and they will have a stigma. And the programs that are supposed to keep kids safe from harm are off working on sexual abuse cases. Unfortunately the rest of us will be warped.
Yes I agree,
I believe nobody should have children, unless they're super-rich and have zero problems
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