Drinking and social problems...at 16?
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Alcohol is dangerous the way you are using it! I started drinking at the age of 12. I had NO self-esteem and it made me feel like I fit in. Plus, I seemed to be fearless or courageous when I drank or got high. The problem was that when I drank--I did things that I would not do sober! Then I would be horribly embrassed and drink more to feel better and do something more horrid and drink to get over that. I did this over and over for more than twenty years.
Some people can drink without consequences and some can't. You have to determine if you can. But, I did not have any real self-esteem until after I quit drinking when I was in my 30's.
By that time, I had only finished high school and had no further education. You may not want to go to college. But, believe me there was so much that I missed out on by drinking. It sounds silly but I did not do so much that I could have done otherwise.
If you think you have a problem with it--you probably do. Talk to your school counselor or parents. Ask if you can see a therapist. They can help with any issues you may have. You may be perfectly normal.
I have found that you build self-esteem with esteemable acts. You feel good about yourself when you do good things. Stay away from things that make you feel bad about yourself. Feeling good about yourself is an inside job. But it is sooooo worth it.
I wish you the best. You CAN be who and what you want to be! Don't give up!
alcohol aint dangerous girl, just dont drive while doin it, I say kick back and always do what feel good. and 80% of folks who do drink do it cuz it takes the edge off and makes em feel more social. u using booze as a way to relax in social situations actually makes u completely normal.
one thing people care about more than anything is self-pride, i don't know the situation. the guy may have liked u, but still ignored u because humans always jockey for power even emotional power. it's a way of showing that i am above my feelings for u or maybe there wasn't any chemistry between u two. u r just 16 lolz. there's so much time left. i recommend u give up drinking. people who say alcohol is not dangerous are not very intelligent. they think if u avoid drinking and driving, u are fine. they forget alcohol's addictivesness, dependency, makes u waste ur time because u cannot use ur brain to it's full capacity. believe me, ive drank lotsa varieties of alcohol.
You are on your way to being an alcoholic. Get treatment now before you ruin your life. About the boy, he is gone forget him. As long as you hold on to this impossible dream, you will never get to know someone else.
Awwww, teen angst. I remember thinking my world was coming to an end when my parents made me break up with my 1st boyfriend. Drinking won't fix anything. You are young and have many more heartaches to come. It's normal. Drinking to fix it however, is not.
Move on and keep yourself busy with friends and boys closer to home. If its meant to be with this boy, it'll happen. If not, don't fret. It took me 46 years to find my Mr Wonderful! Believe me, I've kissed many toads and been down along the way.
Get out of your rut, dust yourself off and have fun being a teenager! You'll be glad you did!!
If you want to stop drinking, ask your family doctor for a referral for counseling; if you don't want to do that, try talking to one of your good friends.
Trust me, I have tried drinking my problems away. It doesn't work, it just creates more problems. Another thing about alcohol: As you get older, the after effects will worsen.
Don't invest yourself so much in just one guy. If he showed no interest in you, then that is his loss. There are lots of guys out there.
Drinking for social pleasure is ok, drinking to forget is a bad thing because then you just have to keep drinking more.
The guy was never intrested in you so forget about him. You might find that someone special is watching you just waiting until your not drunk to approach you. The only guys who are attracted to drunk girls are the one nighters who after they have sex with you, you will never see again.
Your´re so younger, relax when you grow up your entire world will change forever
make sport instead drinking,
When you get 23 or older you´ll see the consecuences
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