How can an abuser be helped to recognize and accept the fact that they are an abuser?
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They need to go into counseling and be told by an objective observer. If told by the person they are abusing, they won't believe it and acknowledge their behavior. It must come from an outsider.
They also have to want to know that they are doing harm to someone else.
Through therapy, if they will go.
What helped my ex was counseling, not only with a pyschologist, but he also took anger management course. Most men don't just wake up one day and say hey I wanna go beat my wife up.they usually have other deep problems and they use the abuse the afflict on others as a way of control...they may feel like their life is outta control, and by trying to control others it gives them a sense of accomplishment. An abuser can be helped, I dont believe once they beat someone up they will always do it...I know from experience that they can be helped if they want it.
Very few abusers will recognise this fact by themselves - that is what makes them abusers! If they really understood what they were doing, they wouldn't do it. So counselling, YES. But many abusers won't face reality until it comes knocking very loudly on their own door - i.e. sometimes you need to report them to the police, otherwise they make promises and continue their abusive behaviour.
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