Waht is the difference between passive aggression and opositional defiant?
i have this problem, i dont like people ordering me around. telling me what todo. i hate authority. when tey tlel me what to do, i say i'll do it, but dont. wil do anything to not comply! when someone tells me waht to do, i get real angry, i just can hardly take it? what is this called and what can i do about it?
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The difference is that with oppositional defiance, there is nothing "passive" about it. A person with this disorder would not say they are going to do something and then not do it...they would just flat out tell you to go jump in a lake! LOL! Sounds like you are passively aggressive, from what you've described. Passive aggressive people tend to want to please people on the surface, but underneath they rebel...and find ways to do what they'd rather do, without being obvious about it. They don't want their actions to "come back on them", yet this is actually what usually ends up happening. It's healthier to say how you really feel about something, and talk through a solution...compromise, if you can. Your anger comes from feeling like you're being "backed into a corner".learning to communicate your feelings (and being able to work out options and compromises when possible) is the key to overcoming this problem. Good luck!
From what I've understood about myself, I am passive agressive, whick means I hold things in and in until the wrong person really ticks me off and I totally go off on them, becoming aggressive. Oppositional Defiant is just that . That is a person who is being defiant just to do that. ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) is a true disorder.
Try here for some help:
http://www.healthsystem.virginia.edu/uva...
Hope this helps you.
You are blessed with an independent nature. Your only problem is that you don't really accept it. That is why you say you'll do it then don't. We can blame society for this because you are female and it is one of those traditions that you are supposed to "obey". However, being independent also means that you are too responsible to play the Blame Game. You could simply re-direct your energy's, without giving up your morals, by changing "hate" into a question. To Question Authority, is your right. When someone tells you what to do, Question them. Who told you to say that? Can't you do it? Do you need my help? You can change the tone of your questioning to get either a peaceful resolution, or an angry confrontation. The Power is Yours.
So here are the "text-book" definitions:
Passive-aggressive behavior refers to passive, sometimes obstructionist resistance to following authoritative instructions in interpersonal or occupational situations. It can manifest itself as resentment, stubbornness, procrastination, sullenness, or repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is assumed, often explicitly, to be responsible. It is a defensive mechanism and, more often than not, only partly conscious. For example, people who are passive-aggressive might take so long to get ready for a party they do not wish to attend, that the party is nearly over by the time they arrive.
Oppositional defiant disorder is a controversial psychiatric category listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders where it is described as an ongoing pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures that goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior (Most of the stuff I found on ODD is related to children so you probably should have out-grown this by now)
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The difference is that with oppositional defiance, there is nothing "passive" about it. A person with this disorder would not say they are going to do something and then not do it...they would just flat out tell you to go jump in a lake! LOL! Sounds like you are passively aggressive, from what you've described. Passive aggressive people tend to want to please people on the surface, but underneath they rebel...and find ways to do what they'd rather do, without being obvious about it. They don't want their actions to "come back on them", yet this is actually what usually ends up happening. It's healthier to say how you really feel about something, and talk through a solution...compromise, if you can. Your anger comes from feeling like you're being "backed into a corner".learning to communicate your feelings (and being able to work out options and compromises when possible) is the key to overcoming this problem. Good luck!
From what I've understood about myself, I am passive agressive, whick means I hold things in and in until the wrong person really ticks me off and I totally go off on them, becoming aggressive. Oppositional Defiant is just that . That is a person who is being defiant just to do that. ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) is a true disorder.
Try here for some help:
http://www.healthsystem.virginia.edu/uva...
Hope this helps you.
You are blessed with an independent nature. Your only problem is that you don't really accept it. That is why you say you'll do it then don't. We can blame society for this because you are female and it is one of those traditions that you are supposed to "obey". However, being independent also means that you are too responsible to play the Blame Game. You could simply re-direct your energy's, without giving up your morals, by changing "hate" into a question. To Question Authority, is your right. When someone tells you what to do, Question them. Who told you to say that? Can't you do it? Do you need my help? You can change the tone of your questioning to get either a peaceful resolution, or an angry confrontation. The Power is Yours.
So here are the "text-book" definitions:
Passive-aggressive behavior refers to passive, sometimes obstructionist resistance to following authoritative instructions in interpersonal or occupational situations. It can manifest itself as resentment, stubbornness, procrastination, sullenness, or repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is assumed, often explicitly, to be responsible. It is a defensive mechanism and, more often than not, only partly conscious. For example, people who are passive-aggressive might take so long to get ready for a party they do not wish to attend, that the party is nearly over by the time they arrive.
Oppositional defiant disorder is a controversial psychiatric category listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders where it is described as an ongoing pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures that goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior (Most of the stuff I found on ODD is related to children so you probably should have out-grown this by now)
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