How do I lessen my care for how others think of me?
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stop looking in the mirror and that will stop you from noticing flaws
Sounds like a low self esteem? Not a psychologist and not pretending to be one, but maybe there is a root in your past that has led to this?
If you are not happy with how you are feeling, which it sounds like you are not, then perhaps consider counselling. It may reveal surprises, and reap more benefits than you anticipate! The key is that you have a will to change, and that makes change possible.
But also, we are all different, and some are more outgoing than others.Some people are attracted to the more retiring type. Hope you can feel better about yourself though. It's no fun going through life when you are down on yourself or feel like a doormat! Honest, speaking to someone (professional) can work! LOL
I really don't think you need to change yourself. There is nothing wrong with being shy. If you are wanting to say something, just simply think about what others might think of your comment before you say it, and if it sounds alright. Say it. but if you don't want to say anything because your shy, then don't.
think of something thats more important like having fun
Change your self perception. if you perceive yourself to be one way, then start actiong like it. Don't base your actions on what others think of you.
I stopped caring so much what others thought about me when I realized that they don't pay my rent, my utilities they don't help me care for my family and most of them I'll never see again, I also realized that as long as my children, parents siblings, and partner thought well of me and that I thought well of my self, It didn't really matter who else thought well of me, it's nice that a lot of people think that I'm a nice person and that I can help others but that's a gift from someone higher than me, also to me if I think of others as being on my family tree at some point it's easier. I hope that you find a way to find it easier to relate to others it will make your life easier.
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