Help i cant accept myself as a shy person?
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well if it bothers you THAT much you should speak your mind... try and let people know how you feel or try and talk to people.. it would make things easier to know the persons attitude first or make eye contact so you know its safe to talk! :) just try coz if u give up you wont be getting anywhere!
Well hey I'm shy too lol and it's hard I know. Just take a Swiff of PATRON before you go & you will have a hell of a day!! lol Naw but what is good is tell a joke or two even if there a little corny that always lightens people up and yourself! (:
Think possitive about yourself, and don't let bad issues control you. If someone isults you, stand up for yourself. No one is a bad person, unless they show it to other people.
I am not shy as well but the computer is connected to vibes other than perfect.
Find, or surround yourself with other people that are much more shy than yourself-OR-others that are as shy as you. Eventually, SOMEONE will crack and show full open, raw emotions, then all of the other shy people can relax and let it help them to become less shy and more confident.
I am shy too and find social gatherings really difficult. What i try to do is ask the people i am talking to questions about them selves and focus on them. I sometimes feel that i dont fit in and am always on the outside looking in but just keep trying.
The only alternative is to become a recluse which would be even more difficult!
hello. when I read this, I just remember how I was before...
I was just like you... I wanted so much to have a lot of friends, but I got borred early. sometimes (all the time in fact) even when my family came to say "hello", I go and hide myself in my room, cos I don't want to talk nor to be bothered by them...
I was unable to deal correctly with most of the people and saw like a selfish person more than a shy one. I refused to admit it, but in fact it was true.
being shy is just concentrating on our own life and our own problems, and not seeing the other problems. we are always with a few people because those people pay us some attention, are kind with us... so we feel satisfied.
I understood that fact later on, when I destroyed my cocoon.
how?
firstly I begin doing a sport that show me to the others. I begin to swim, and to enter some clubs of football and stuff like that. what for? because it obliges us to deal with people if we want to succeed. and more important, it obliges people to deal with us.
after being more sure of myself, I played what I will call a GAME: I catch up all the phone numbers of the college (that I admit I've never known before) and I send to them some kind poems telling them that they are: so nice and stuff. but I choose the one coresponding to their true qualities. it's necessar.
I admit that then, the most difficult part is coming: how to keep those new friends? the rest of my plan ws simple and so hard at the same time: I have to always ask them questions about themselves. and even if they are asking questions about me, I reply in order to stress on them. and I keep telling them all what I see is good in them.
you may say: it's faking! I will reply: I always was sincere. and by being less concentrated on myself, I was able to see all what the others can bring to me. if you want to really live, you have to open up, even if you suffer in the begining.
when you find out the common point between all those people and you, you'll be more able to be with them longer. don't stay confined with two or three close people.
now, regularly, my friends invite me to hang out with them, to make a feast. it's a new familly that I had never expected cos I enjoy myself with them ;D. but I have been fighting many years to be free.
if those advices don't work with you, you shall then have a look on some usefull books, such as dale carnegie and others. if you want, I can send you an old version, but good one, one How to make friends and to influence them.
hope my own experience helped you. ^^
(forgive me for the mistakes, I am not an english speaker)
I'm a shy person too and I always have been. Every year at school without fail my teachers at parents evening would say how I need to speak up more in class and take part in discussions, that I was very shy and would grow out of it one day. However, when I started university and I didn't know anyone and for the first time in my life I was totally alone, I realised I couldn't be shy. I realised that I was never going to get anywhere in life if my shyness kept holding me back. I realised I had to literally force myself out of my comfort zone and talk to people. It took me a while but gradually my confidence built up and my friends at university couldn't believe I used to be so shy at school! I work as a recruitment consultant now and deal with people very day. My confidence is improving all the time but I still feel shy although people find it hard to believe. I still go red all the time though and I guess I always will have that. But my advice to you is this. Just forget what other people think and try your hardest to be confident. Just think whats the worst that could happend and just try to talk to people and build up your confidence one step at a time. In a way its like role - playing for me, I'm a shy person pretending I'm not!
is this shyness or lack of confidence in yourself?
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