PTSD and love?

Ok, so I have PTSD and some other stuff, all anxiety based, and it seems like trying to have a relationship is next to impossible. I might act like it's okay on the surface but really inside I'm always a mess. My whole ordeal is based on abandonment and people hurting me over and over in life. This is just a general description but I wondered if any other people like me have managed to somehow overcome the crap enough to be able to have a happy life with someone who seems to care. It seems like the struggle is so hard.

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Very hard for me to really trust anyone and I never open up. Medication helps some. I like being in a relationship but for the reasons listed above things don't work out. Are you still seeing a therapist? Suffered from PTSD since the early 70's when it was called "battle fatigue" and I'm just now seeing some improvement. Hard is an understatement sometimes. Wish I could be more help. Hang in.

..Yes, it's hard. But love and other richnesses of life are possible. Many, many people get help and resolve their PTSD issues. You can, too. It may seem like you're lost in the forest right now, but you CAN find your way out and have what others have. Everyone faces challenges, whether it's PTSD or something else. You're strong enough to work through it and there are people who can help. Don't despair.

Yeah, i've kind overcome it. I've got a fiance and a son who is two. And another one on the way. He thinks i'm crazy when i get all anxiety struck. And we get it to big fights. But, overall its tough because there are times i want to just be alone and i can't because he is there. Gotta find the right one who is willing to stick it out with you, through good and bad.
Good luck

Usaully PTSD lasts for a period of time and will evetually taper off... Obviously you have some serious issues going on in your life now or recently... These issues could be clouding your judgement, and making you a bit paranoid - if you do have ptsd...

You will be OKAY. Believe that. Then when you are feeling better the right person will "pop up" from out of nowhere... ;)

The issue is that your anxiety will make you suspicious of even the best partners. Your suspicion will sabotage every relationship before it has a chance of working.

You should try working with a therapist who specializes in behavioral psychology. They can teach you tools to overcome your suspicious and fears.

Consider sparing unsuspecting men from your self-described "mess" until you have some of these issues worked out.

Men are not a drug that we take to cure our loneliness, and you shouldn't treat them that way. You should come to your partner as an equal, whole person.

I know how lonliness can increase your anxiety and self-doubt. I was SO there. I had a panic disorder and similar abandonment injuries. I ended my anxiety and depression by refusing to do the things (or stay with the people) that brought me stress. You hurt a lot of people's feelings, but it's worth it. You heal yourself in this way.

Now I'm in a happy, healthy relationship. It's fantastic. Good luck.

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