Is it possible?
I am at university and I hope to one day work as a journalist or as a photojournalist, I have many interests but for about two years now I feel I have become detatched from myself and from reality.
I have real social problems and find being around people difficult, I have started seeing a councillor but I am worried my aspirations and dreams for the future will whither away as I have such lacking confidence and self esteem.
Have you succeeded in life even though you have struggled with confidence? Or has a lack of confidence made you compromise your dreams? Thank you
Answer:
My grandmother used to sit me on her back doorstep just as dusk was falling.
She used to tell me that there was a star for all of us in the universe.
She made me look for my star.
When I found it she told me to hang onto it.
When times get rough just reach for your star and all your dreams will come true.
Everyone has problems with people.
You are not alone.
Everyone struggles with their self-esteem and confidence, they just don't tell you.
So keep plodding on you will get there eventually.
i think you may do better as a freelancer, i used to be a journalist and it's a very very tough job where people treat each other very badly and it is no place for a sensitive person. I think perhaps you are a sensitive soul and you may be better as a novelist or a poet or photographer or something that will be a little easier on you? if ever there was a job populated by people who will make you feel terrible about yourself, it's journalism.
I'm a partner in a West End firm of Chartered Accountants, have a nice car and fair amount of money in the bank despite having very low self esteem, no confidence and social anxiety. Some might call that success.
However, I have never had a girlfriend and feel totally unfulfilled
I think everyone struggles with self-confidence! Here's the way I look at it: I already suck, so therefore I have nothing to lose. Before every public presentation, every decision, every phone call to a stranger that I make, I just take a deep breath and leave it to fate. So far fate hasn't let me down too badly. I think that just by being at a university you do believe in yourself, you just maybe haven't thought of it that way. Would you really be there if you thought you couldn't hack it, if you didn't believe you had a future?
You fail at 100% of the attempts you don't make (or something like that). I know how having social problems tends to limit your abilities. You just need to find the courage to accomplish goals despite it.
Start by pretending. Get the feel of it. Jump in and be unafraid to smile.
Take some lessons in Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
Confidence is an art form. Nobody is born confident or assertive - only arrogant or aggressive.
You have to find confidence in order to be successful. I am a manager at a hotel and I interview people all the time that are lacking in confidence. They have great qualifications but how can they sell the hotel when they can't sell themselves. Have you ever heard the term "fake it 'til you make it". Imitate someone else who is full of confidence and then one day you will realize that you are not an imitation but you have actually developed the confidence that you wanted. Hey, it worked for me.
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