Parents question??
im 18 and not a big partier i guess, but i think my dad was when he was younger. he tells me stories of kegs they had and all, and i feel bad. i dont want my parents to think im a loser cause i dont party that much. im more focused on school and work. any tips?
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Do what interests you. I think that your dad is trying to relive fun times that he had more than putting pressure on you. I think that they'll be happy (and less worried) if you are not out drinking all the time. People do different things for fun. Just try to do things YOU like while in college, you'll have plenty of time to work when you get a real job.
don't u fell like that u are a totally different than ur dad and if u focus more in school that is better because u are going to have a better future in life better than ur parents if u go the right track don't ever do something that u don't want just to please someone . good luck
There is nothing wrong with focusing on education and keeping a good job.
Maybe your parents think that you could be missing out on some good times. Summer is coming and all I remember about my summers are beer, beach and being home only to sleep, shower and change.
This is when you are supposed to enjoy some of your life. But if you are planning on moving out and going to college, then you will soon learn what they meant.
Your parents don't think that you are a loser, they are probably just concerned that you could be missing out on some cool stuff. That is all.
Keep doing what you are doing and if that makes you happy then you succeed and get farther ahead in life.
It's great to hear that not everyone is a big partier. Your interests are different than your folks, and that's okay. Maybe you can have some friends over for movie night, and make it an all nighter (co-ed if allowed). You don't need booze to have fun with your friends.
Don't worry your parents don't think ur a loser, they are probably happy. I never was a partier untill after I grauduated highschool. Some people go through this stage and others don't. Yea it is fun but you don't have to do it to prove any thing to any one be yourself and you will get more respect. Your dad isn't telling the stories to make you feel bad or to try to get you in to it. He is telling them because it is fun to reminise about the past. You get to sit back and laugh at how dumb you were when you were younger, remember the good times and be glad your not that dumb still. Having a family gives you more joy, but it is still good to go back once and awhile. Or maybe he is hoping by telling them you wont follow i his foot steps. So my suggestion stay focused on your studies you are going some where. Wish you the best.
I think its great that you aren't into the drinking scene. I happen to have an 18 year old. She says alot of her friends get drunk. We let her have a sip with dinner so that she can learn how to be responsible towards it. I really don't think she even likes the taste that much. Her Dad is a medic and she has seen some major accidents related to alcohol use. Back in your parents day and mine-the drinking age was 18. I think it was just more available. I drank on college week-ends like your parents. I seldom drink now. I don't think you are a loser at all. In fact,you have made a very grown-up decision for yourself. If your parents would think otherwise ,then they have a problem! Have a good eve.
It's ok to be different from your parents. Not everybody thinks that partiers are cool; and quite frankly most of us (I'm close to your dad's age, I suspect, or a bit older) think that it's the partiers who are mostly the losers. They're the ones who get into trouble with booze and drugs and traffic accidents and such; certainly they're the ones that I avoided when I was your age, because I didn't want to get into trouble, too.
That doesn't mean that your dad isn't a good person; I'm sure he is. He may simply be looking back on his life and wishing he could do some of it again. However, it's very possible he's also looking back on that time with the proverbial "rose-colored glasses," and that it looks better to him now than it actually was. Those things make good stories now, but people do tend to embellish things over time.
I find it VERY unlikely that your parents think you're any sort of loser at all. I'd just take the stories as stories, and not as expectations, and go ahead and live your life the way it's best for YOU. :-)
Do you mean any tips on how to convince your parents that you are not a loser?
Are you any of these things: A drug or any other substance addict, a mental deficient, an incompetent, a person who is manipulated by anyone, a person who has no manual dexterity whatsover?
If not, then you are not a loser, If you are any of those things then do something about them. You cannot convince anyone unless you are convinced first.
By the way any parent worth its name would be on your side and in your corner giving you full support for the right decisions
you make in this life.
I don't' think that you father expects you to be a copy of him, I think that telling you about the days when he was a wild teenager maybe for three reasons, 1- It's a way of reliving his youth, 2-it helps you to share part of him that you didn't know and he may be trying to tell you that he doesn't want you to do what he did. Doctors are learning more about the dangers of binge drinking, It has lead to death's on some campuses and it has caused serious brain damage on others. You can die from binge drinking and it can put you into a coma and result in severe brain damage. Drinking can cause brain cells to die and they don't regenerate the way that other cells in the body do. Therefore if you lose enough brain cells you can develop brain damage. If you're doing well in school and doing well at the job than I'm certain that your parents are proud of you.
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Do what interests you. I think that your dad is trying to relive fun times that he had more than putting pressure on you. I think that they'll be happy (and less worried) if you are not out drinking all the time. People do different things for fun. Just try to do things YOU like while in college, you'll have plenty of time to work when you get a real job.
don't u fell like that u are a totally different than ur dad and if u focus more in school that is better because u are going to have a better future in life better than ur parents if u go the right track don't ever do something that u don't want just to please someone . good luck
There is nothing wrong with focusing on education and keeping a good job.
Maybe your parents think that you could be missing out on some good times. Summer is coming and all I remember about my summers are beer, beach and being home only to sleep, shower and change.
This is when you are supposed to enjoy some of your life. But if you are planning on moving out and going to college, then you will soon learn what they meant.
Your parents don't think that you are a loser, they are probably just concerned that you could be missing out on some cool stuff. That is all.
Keep doing what you are doing and if that makes you happy then you succeed and get farther ahead in life.
It's great to hear that not everyone is a big partier. Your interests are different than your folks, and that's okay. Maybe you can have some friends over for movie night, and make it an all nighter (co-ed if allowed). You don't need booze to have fun with your friends.
Don't worry your parents don't think ur a loser, they are probably happy. I never was a partier untill after I grauduated highschool. Some people go through this stage and others don't. Yea it is fun but you don't have to do it to prove any thing to any one be yourself and you will get more respect. Your dad isn't telling the stories to make you feel bad or to try to get you in to it. He is telling them because it is fun to reminise about the past. You get to sit back and laugh at how dumb you were when you were younger, remember the good times and be glad your not that dumb still. Having a family gives you more joy, but it is still good to go back once and awhile. Or maybe he is hoping by telling them you wont follow i his foot steps. So my suggestion stay focused on your studies you are going some where. Wish you the best.
I think its great that you aren't into the drinking scene. I happen to have an 18 year old. She says alot of her friends get drunk. We let her have a sip with dinner so that she can learn how to be responsible towards it. I really don't think she even likes the taste that much. Her Dad is a medic and she has seen some major accidents related to alcohol use. Back in your parents day and mine-the drinking age was 18. I think it was just more available. I drank on college week-ends like your parents. I seldom drink now. I don't think you are a loser at all. In fact,you have made a very grown-up decision for yourself. If your parents would think otherwise ,then they have a problem! Have a good eve.
It's ok to be different from your parents. Not everybody thinks that partiers are cool; and quite frankly most of us (I'm close to your dad's age, I suspect, or a bit older) think that it's the partiers who are mostly the losers. They're the ones who get into trouble with booze and drugs and traffic accidents and such; certainly they're the ones that I avoided when I was your age, because I didn't want to get into trouble, too.
That doesn't mean that your dad isn't a good person; I'm sure he is. He may simply be looking back on his life and wishing he could do some of it again. However, it's very possible he's also looking back on that time with the proverbial "rose-colored glasses," and that it looks better to him now than it actually was. Those things make good stories now, but people do tend to embellish things over time.
I find it VERY unlikely that your parents think you're any sort of loser at all. I'd just take the stories as stories, and not as expectations, and go ahead and live your life the way it's best for YOU. :-)
Do you mean any tips on how to convince your parents that you are not a loser?
Are you any of these things: A drug or any other substance addict, a mental deficient, an incompetent, a person who is manipulated by anyone, a person who has no manual dexterity whatsover?
If not, then you are not a loser, If you are any of those things then do something about them. You cannot convince anyone unless you are convinced first.
By the way any parent worth its name would be on your side and in your corner giving you full support for the right decisions
you make in this life.
I don't' think that you father expects you to be a copy of him, I think that telling you about the days when he was a wild teenager maybe for three reasons, 1- It's a way of reliving his youth, 2-it helps you to share part of him that you didn't know and he may be trying to tell you that he doesn't want you to do what he did. Doctors are learning more about the dangers of binge drinking, It has lead to death's on some campuses and it has caused serious brain damage on others. You can die from binge drinking and it can put you into a coma and result in severe brain damage. Drinking can cause brain cells to die and they don't regenerate the way that other cells in the body do. Therefore if you lose enough brain cells you can develop brain damage. If you're doing well in school and doing well at the job than I'm certain that your parents are proud of you.
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