How Do You Overcome and Embarrassing Situation?
What thoughts or thinking do you need to not be the "embarrassed" type of person. I get embarrassed over so many things (I'm private and when my feelings or thoughts are revealed, I buckle when I'm teased or harrassed about it). The people who are jerks and who are immature pick up on this, and tease, taunt, gossip, and make me want to never be seen in public again and to change my name and identity.
I can't put the fire out -- I don't know how, and am perceived like a weak, dumb girl that can be picked on. This was always the case with me. What makes it worse now is that I'm in my mid-30's and it hasn't stopped. People detect this weakness, I'm teased and harrassed, and I don't have the skills I need to stop this (or stop it from happening in the first place).
What do I need to do to change? I feel like I can't become totally sharp and quick overnight. Pls help.
Answer:
Learn to laugh at and learn from your mistakes.
if you ever feel like your doing something stupid and youre ready to be embarrassed about it, laugh before you blush. laugh at your stupid mistake and go on by making an abrupt halt to your laugh. then the other people wont laugh at you.
self restrain
u must strong and believe in yourself.never let others bringing u down.
I can sort of relate to you. Most everyone closest in my life (mom, siblings, neighbors, friends, boyfriend) makes fun of me. When I ask them to stop they just laught and say "but it's so easy!"
When it gets on my nerves I will figure out EXACTLY what I am going to say and just say it to them. Usually they will stop for awhile.
Sorry for your harassment and best of luck. meg
You just need to learn to laugh at yourself. Everyone feels embarrassed at some point in their life. Just be calm and if it is a really bigy deal, go and talk to someone about how it is affecting your life. Don't let it ruin your life. You deserve more than that.
I would say, look the person straight in the eye and say, I'm not going to take this from you anymore! Be strong, don't worry about what they say.
I use to be like you and Now I wont take any bull from anyone! I don't need friends like that!
I suggest you do some challenging thing like exercise,try a hobbies,something to build confidence.Theningor people that react to your way of doing things ,also do lots of reading when possible.You can do this .Go for it!
believe in your self that what ever you have done is wright and do wright things always and what ever is done is done there is no point in thinking about it
I am so sorry and I feel your pain. I was teased and picked on in elementary school. Fortunately, in the 7th grade I changed schools. No one knew me and I didn't soar socially, I was just invisible which was fine with me (compared to being the picked on nerd). The pain from this time is still intense when I think about it, so I try not to think about it too much even though I am older than you.
My suggestion is to get psychotherapy...he/she will help you to work through the pain and find new ways to move on from this cycle you've been spinning in. As you continue to go, they will help you get through each new step...maybe a new job, a way to meet new friends, join a church...whatever is your path to happiness.
One suggestion that I have for right now is that when someone teases or taunts you, instead of pretending not to hear or pretending to laugh along, just say something like, "wow, that really hur!" or just "ouch". If they have one iota of feelings for a fellow human being, they may just realize what they are doing.
I am praying for a happy future for you. Best wishes.
Dear, it is very easy. Now onwards, whenever you feel you are in such a situation, say yourself that you are such a kind of person and that is why you feel embarassed. You are so soft that even a small perturbation in your environment gives you a jerk. Thereafter realise what you are going to do as your reply to that jerk. As the third step, try to soften your action-no need to restrain. You express yourself in a softer way. At this point you may feel for a deep breath-have it and then-Be happy.
Actually, you answered your own question with 'jerks/immature'.
Next time, look these people in the eyes, tilt your head to the side just a little and smile sweetly as you see them for the 'jerks/immature' persons they are.
when I am embarrassed when I fall down...etc and when people laugh at me to pick me up I laugh with them and I tell them how funny it was. even if I was so sad and angry i control my feelings and I never let them know that I am sad and when I am alone I cry a little then back again fresh and happy this is the life you have to be strong and control your feelings even in the bad situations
have a nice day :-)
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I can't put the fire out -- I don't know how, and am perceived like a weak, dumb girl that can be picked on. This was always the case with me. What makes it worse now is that I'm in my mid-30's and it hasn't stopped. People detect this weakness, I'm teased and harrassed, and I don't have the skills I need to stop this (or stop it from happening in the first place).
What do I need to do to change? I feel like I can't become totally sharp and quick overnight. Pls help.
Answer:
Learn to laugh at and learn from your mistakes.
if you ever feel like your doing something stupid and youre ready to be embarrassed about it, laugh before you blush. laugh at your stupid mistake and go on by making an abrupt halt to your laugh. then the other people wont laugh at you.
self restrain
u must strong and believe in yourself.never let others bringing u down.
I can sort of relate to you. Most everyone closest in my life (mom, siblings, neighbors, friends, boyfriend) makes fun of me. When I ask them to stop they just laught and say "but it's so easy!"
When it gets on my nerves I will figure out EXACTLY what I am going to say and just say it to them. Usually they will stop for awhile.
Sorry for your harassment and best of luck. meg
You just need to learn to laugh at yourself. Everyone feels embarrassed at some point in their life. Just be calm and if it is a really bigy deal, go and talk to someone about how it is affecting your life. Don't let it ruin your life. You deserve more than that.
I would say, look the person straight in the eye and say, I'm not going to take this from you anymore! Be strong, don't worry about what they say.
I use to be like you and Now I wont take any bull from anyone! I don't need friends like that!
I suggest you do some challenging thing like exercise,try a hobbies,something to build confidence.Theningor people that react to your way of doing things ,also do lots of reading when possible.You can do this .Go for it!
believe in your self that what ever you have done is wright and do wright things always and what ever is done is done there is no point in thinking about it
I am so sorry and I feel your pain. I was teased and picked on in elementary school. Fortunately, in the 7th grade I changed schools. No one knew me and I didn't soar socially, I was just invisible which was fine with me (compared to being the picked on nerd). The pain from this time is still intense when I think about it, so I try not to think about it too much even though I am older than you.
My suggestion is to get psychotherapy...he/she will help you to work through the pain and find new ways to move on from this cycle you've been spinning in. As you continue to go, they will help you get through each new step...maybe a new job, a way to meet new friends, join a church...whatever is your path to happiness.
One suggestion that I have for right now is that when someone teases or taunts you, instead of pretending not to hear or pretending to laugh along, just say something like, "wow, that really hur!" or just "ouch". If they have one iota of feelings for a fellow human being, they may just realize what they are doing.
I am praying for a happy future for you. Best wishes.
Dear, it is very easy. Now onwards, whenever you feel you are in such a situation, say yourself that you are such a kind of person and that is why you feel embarassed. You are so soft that even a small perturbation in your environment gives you a jerk. Thereafter realise what you are going to do as your reply to that jerk. As the third step, try to soften your action-no need to restrain. You express yourself in a softer way. At this point you may feel for a deep breath-have it and then-Be happy.
Actually, you answered your own question with 'jerks/immature'.
Next time, look these people in the eyes, tilt your head to the side just a little and smile sweetly as you see them for the 'jerks/immature' persons they are.
when I am embarrassed when I fall down...etc and when people laugh at me to pick me up I laugh with them and I tell them how funny it was. even if I was so sad and angry i control my feelings and I never let them know that I am sad and when I am alone I cry a little then back again fresh and happy this is the life you have to be strong and control your feelings even in the bad situations
have a nice day :-)
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