Is there a psychological reason for this?
I'm 17. I have a mother and an older sister who is 20. Ever since I was young (maybe 10) I've taken to making up little stories in my head about older girls taking care of me. The girls in my stories are my sisters age, some could be her friends, or just girls that seem really cool. The stories could be about one of these girls going to boarding school with me, where they take care of me, or they live next door and take care of me...the point is, I always make up stories where these girls are my caregivers. In the stories, there's no mother of mine present, occasionally a father, but always a 20-year-old girl taking care of me. My real family is never in it. In my stories, I'll have a father, and occasionally a brother. And one of the girls (I have a story for many older girls) will take care of me. Nothing sexual! We're like best friends, but they take care of me and watch out for me. What is this??
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I don't know, but I honestly think it's probably ok. A lot of people are going to tell you you need help and such, but I don't think so. I think you're ok. What this is, doesn't matter. I can tell just from your post that you're not a pscho path. You seem reasonably intelligent at least. I think you're cool brother.
Edit: P.S. I love your name. I listen to that tune all the time, Christmas or not. It is beautiful.
maybe u feel like u cant relate well to ur mom if theres a really large age gap or if she just doesnt understand u the way a younger woman might. we all dream and wonder what it would be like if we had a different life/family. the grass is always greener on the other side of ur neighbour's fence!
I don't think that that's so unusual. I know that my 15 year old thinks about her 28 or 32 year old sister's taking care of her because if something happen to me that's who would take care of her. Maybe you're doing the same thing imagining what it would be like to have someone you're sisters age take care of you if something happen to your mother. If you and your sister don't always get along that maybe why you don't picture her in the picture but why it's always someone around her age. Have you talked to you mother and asked her who would take care of you if something should happen to her?? Maybe it's something you're worried about with out realizing it. I think that if you talk to your mother about this she maybe able to help you. I hope that this helps you.
Did you watch a lot of Disney movies when you were little, that is a theme of many of them, sounds to me like you are creative...making up stories...
Maybe you should be a writer!
It's a fantasy of yours and it's okay. Don't worry about it, the stories (fantasies) will change or go away. You are relating to those girls and it appeals to you that they care for you instead of your mother at this point. You are at the developmental stage in our culture where you break away from the same sex parent and that is normal. You are probably afraid that if you are on your own you will not be able to care for yourself. That is a normal apprehension also. So in your mind, these girls, whom you like and relate to, care for you. As I said, don't worry about it.
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I don't know, but I honestly think it's probably ok. A lot of people are going to tell you you need help and such, but I don't think so. I think you're ok. What this is, doesn't matter. I can tell just from your post that you're not a pscho path. You seem reasonably intelligent at least. I think you're cool brother.
Edit: P.S. I love your name. I listen to that tune all the time, Christmas or not. It is beautiful.
maybe u feel like u cant relate well to ur mom if theres a really large age gap or if she just doesnt understand u the way a younger woman might. we all dream and wonder what it would be like if we had a different life/family. the grass is always greener on the other side of ur neighbour's fence!
I don't think that that's so unusual. I know that my 15 year old thinks about her 28 or 32 year old sister's taking care of her because if something happen to me that's who would take care of her. Maybe you're doing the same thing imagining what it would be like to have someone you're sisters age take care of you if something happen to your mother. If you and your sister don't always get along that maybe why you don't picture her in the picture but why it's always someone around her age. Have you talked to you mother and asked her who would take care of you if something should happen to her?? Maybe it's something you're worried about with out realizing it. I think that if you talk to your mother about this she maybe able to help you. I hope that this helps you.
Did you watch a lot of Disney movies when you were little, that is a theme of many of them, sounds to me like you are creative...making up stories...
Maybe you should be a writer!
It's a fantasy of yours and it's okay. Don't worry about it, the stories (fantasies) will change or go away. You are relating to those girls and it appeals to you that they care for you instead of your mother at this point. You are at the developmental stage in our culture where you break away from the same sex parent and that is normal. You are probably afraid that if you are on your own you will not be able to care for yourself. That is a normal apprehension also. So in your mind, these girls, whom you like and relate to, care for you. As I said, don't worry about it.
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