Shyness preventing me from getting job?
In the break between high school and college I want to get a job so I'll have something to put on my CV in future.
However, I have very severe shyness and I can't face not being with people I know.
Also, I am not very good with social skills and I fear being seen as weird by my colleagues.
So, I would love to get a job (and my mum is pressuring me) but I find it so hard, but I can't talk to my mum about it.
Any tips for coping with shyness?
Answer:
NOPE! u not knowing any connects is keeping u from gettin a job
I'm the same way. I can't keep a job or get a good job because I'm so shy and that makes me come across as stuck up. Just somethin you gotta get over I guess!
you just gotta suck it up and be vocal
You will meet new people at a new job. Step outside of your box, you can do it!! The interview process is normally one-on-one, there's nothing to be scared about. Just show your strengths and land yourself a job. I got my first job at Dairy Queen in the April before graduating high school. I was very shy as well, but I met a ton of great people there.
shyness is very hard on people ..especially at the beginning of life as you are..Remember you are as good as all the people you meet they are just the same as you.."a person"..don't let people intimidate you ...I know exactly how you feel ..I have been basically shy all my life..I wanted to be a singer on stage..at school they put me on the stage to sing to the class and I froze..Confidence is all it is..Stand in front of the mirror and say I can do it ..take a deep breath and go to it..pretend the day is not happening and say it doesn't matter what you do or say as it isn't happening..you will find the day dissolves and you reach the other end thinking what was all the fuss about..Go find that job..I'm with you all the way.good luck.
I used to be really shy myself, but i've gotten over it in the past few years. Some tips, even though they may be hard to put into practise, are...
~smile a lot (people will see you as friendly at least, even if not talkative. That way they will not view you as a snob)
~Keep an open posture (that means no slouching, no folding your arms in front of you, keep your head up...this will make you seem more confident, and will demand more respect from others. It might even help you get a job)
~Maintain eye contact, at least as long as you can (People like it when others look at them when they talk, they know you are really listenig to them, and they will be more inclined to include you more often in conversations)
~Ask questions aat work (if you don't understand something, just ask. This can be hard because now the other person is focusing on you, but just remember they are not going to think less of you. They will appreciate your modesty in admitting you don't know, and will be happy to help you because they know you'll do a better job)
~Work hard (Quiet but steady is far better than outgoing but lazy. Your employers will recognize this)
~Enjoy life! (People like being around others that are optimistic and happy.)
Once you start spending more time around other people, even strangers, and you try to be less shy, you'll improve. Look at people you like and ask yourself why you like being with them, then try to copy those qualities. But be yourself! You'll do fine. I hope you get a job! :)
You have to overcome it. Just go in like you own the place and look the people right in the eye and speak clearly with confidence and you will have no problem. Think about it this way Do you really care what people think of you? If you do then you need to let that go because if you sit on your hands all the time you will not get anywhere in life. Just relax because So what if you don't get that job there are many more out there so just go for it!
Find someone you can trust to start with and tell them some of the things you have been wanting to talk about but been to worried to mention. You will probably find yourself feeling better after that and it will be easier the next time.
Also, remember that everybody, and I do mean everybody has things that they don't want to talk to others about, and insecurities and feel to a greater or lesser degree what you are feeling. You just need to grab life by the horns and live it.
And finally before you get in a situation that you are worried about, just take a few minutes to really face up to everything that could happen due to it. I don't mean worry about it, just face it without flinching from it and you will find it easier to bear. And if you do that it will never come out as bad as you thought it might.
Do well.
shyness to some extent is a quality,keep on looking for a job and you will find people who will appreciate this quality in you.wish you luck
You have to find a way to overcome it if you want to get a job. What are you afraid of? I believe that fear is keeping you shy.
You also need to think about what is the worse thing that can happen if you talk to someone that you don't know?
You could take baby steps, if you are out in public, talk to someone, say hello. If you really want a job before you begin college then you need to focus on that and do what you have to do. You have to take risks. It's just a part of life. Really, you have nothing to fear. Rather you have a lot to gain by taking calculated risks. You have to be smart about it. But you are not alone in being shy so don't feel that you are. Just take small steps, once you are comfortable there or comfortable enough to move on, don't baby yourself too much, move on. If you end up going backwards, don't worry, start again. You can do it. You could see a counselor if it's too much for you to handle on your own. You will need to speak to your mum about it.
The reasons for shyness in general are :
- Your gender;
- Lack of confidence in yourself;
- Fear of not knowing the things;
- Inferiority complex due to ones colour of skin/beauty/face;
- To be in an alien land.
You have to analyse your shyness and find out why you are so much afraid of people. A few suggestions which may be helpful are :
- Develop confidence by reading books on allied subjects;
- Discuss the things you have read with your younger brother (if you have)/ cousins/ friends and inculcate habit of group discussion;
- Initially, you can try to speak in loneliness or in front of a mirror , so that you can see your face and try to control the shyness;
- If your body is the reason of your shyness , try to start doing some exercises and Yoga etc.
- You have to accept that one day you have to face this world, so better start now and face it from the front.
ACT. Play the role of a self-assured, well liked person. You have wit, and charm, and lots to talk about. When you go for a job, that person does not know you. You can therefore be whoever you want to be. Get a job as a waitress. It'll give you practice with strangers who mean nothing to you. You are the most important person in your life. Be the star of your own life. After some time of acting, you won't have to anymore because you've become used to being that which you want to be, and it will come much easier as time goes by.
Peace
I think that you can get over it step by step. Just start small, like hanging out with a few close cousins or friends and then having them introduce to new friends of theirs and after a while you'll get comfortable around strangers. I used to be really shy too, im not a social butterfly now, but i've realized that they are people just like me and if i don't speak up, i wont get to meet new people or experience new things. And living my life like that sounds really boring.
you chose to be a shining star which gives you all the distance you'll ever require. Trust yourself to be that star in all of your life's choices. Believe and achieve. Let go of fear if you want to fly to the top of any of your 'mountains' U Go Girl! I believe in you!
It's ok buddy, I was weird all throughout school and still am. Ya get used to it. Just find a job ya like and don't be scared. I was quite shy during my school years, and I guess I just finally grew out of it and stopped caring what people thought of me.
Sounds as if you may have "social anxiety disorder"
Here is a link for you:
http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
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